"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Been seeing this girl for about a month now. Everything has been great. Usually seeing each other 2-3 times a week. We had planned something for tonight and last night at 9PM she writes.

HER:So I know we said we would hang tomorrow,but if you're too tired and stuff I totally understand if you can't make it. You had a full weekend and a busy day and prob need your relaxation time.

(3 minutes later)

HER: And this isnt a weird girl test lol (BULL#####)

my first step was to NOT write back last night. I was thinking about writing back with "No worries. It's a normal day for me. Maybe we'll meet up later this week." That shows her I was down for hanging out, and I'll probably be finding something else to do. If she says, let's still do something, I'll probably tell her I already made plans. Thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why is it more important to maintain your value and avoiding rejection than to meet up with her?

Just find out what you choose to roll with and do it.
 
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I could be wrong, but if you want to hang with her, than you should. There's nothing wrong with saying that you still are planning on hanging out.

Am I wrong on this guys? (I do it all the time and never have problems.)
 
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Dante1a said:
I could be wrong, but if you want to hang with her, than you should. There's nothing wrong with saying that you still are planning on hanging out.

Am I wrong on this guys? (I do it all the time and never have problems.)
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No I don't think you're wrong. You can say you still want to hang out but you have to do it in a tactuful way (a way where you're coming from a position of power and strength). Him responding "Yes I still want to hang out" would be a bit different that saying "Don't worry about it. Be here at 7 tomorrow". Do you see the difference there?
 
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Droz88 said:
No I don't think you're wrong. You can say you still want to hang out but you have to do it in a tactuful way (a way where you're coming from a position of power and strength). Him responding "Yes I still want to hang out" would be a bit different that saying "Don't worry about it. Be here at 7 tomorrow". Do you see the difference there?
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I see the difference and like the second method. But I dont understand why a girl would text something like what is in the OP in the first place
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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