"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hello,
I need advices about a girl I really like but I am not sure about her feelings.
I met her 3 months ago and began to date her a bit later. We had three diners together during this period until now and I think she likes me as well. But the last time it was very difficult to make her come as she pretended to be very busy and always reported the lunch to the next week. She finally came and was a bit different than the way I used to know her until then. She asked me if I had a girlfriend and seemed very interested by my answer. She also proposed me to make a trip with her in her native country as soon as our studies will be over. And finally she learned me how to say I love you in her native language whereas I did not ask her this.
But at the end of our date as I asked her when I will see her again she did not give me a clear answer, just a "it depends" and I think I will have to fight again to arrange our next date.
Do you think it really worths to go on with this relationship? This would be a very hard choice as she is very important to me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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There is no 'relationship' here.
You're two people who are in some sort of awkward involvement.
She is not that interested in you, since she is not making you a priority.
You appear not to be escalating the interactions physically, which is sending you into the friend zone. So she is acting hot and cold to you because there's no sexual chemistry going on.
Dont follow a woman.
Dont waste time 'looking for clues' or waiting for the 'right time'.

Read the DJ bible and the Book of Pook.
Read up on some David Deangelo stuff too.
I also recommend reading up on Real Social Dynamics stuff too.
Their Blueprint Decoded is very good.
Also look into Dr. Paul Dobransky's stuff.
Get your self informed before getting too involved in the forum.
Take responsibilty for informing yourself on your own and then if you need more elaboration, ask here.
But make sure you're familiar with the subject for now.
You've got a lot of shaming, embarasment, timidness, insecurity, and other non honoring beliefs, and you need to get informed before you can make a strong change to reprogram yourself.
 
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Mendez, listen to Interceptor.

But read David D's stuff first because I know the other stuff he mentioned is a little to advance for you a this point in stage.

Just remember though, an instruction booklet will tell you step by step of how to assemble something but it won't assemble it for you.
 
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