"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hary3030

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Hey guys, I have an interesting little situation here to share and I need some advice about it.

I'm kind of confused about a girl, my classmate. We're 17. I've known her well since last year and she says I'm the only guy she tells some personal stuff. And I do like her. But I'm not her gay friend, we have been flerting a lot lately.
Then, Tuesday, two weeks ago, we had lunch together and had some laughts. When we finished, we decided to miss some afternoon classes to go to the school library so we could study to a physics test. We stayed there for like 2 hours, talking about not only physics but about her life too, and she was sending me some positive signs. Then we went to the break and then back to the library. Then it got dark, the library closed, almost nobody was at the school and we started to walk looking for a room. We ended up getting the director's room...And there we was, just the two of us, I was paying much atention while she was teaching me, mantaining strong eye contact.
And, since that day, I've been having some feelings for her, but it's ok, still not a problem. And then, this very Monday, a party is announced! (a high school 3rd year party), scheduled to saturday 27th, and I thought: I want to kiss her in this party, and let's see what happens. So a few minutes later I sugested her to share a tequila with me, and she accepted. But after that, we'be been looking to each other differently. In the first day(Tuesday) it was more intense, but then yesterday and today she didn't look at me once, and worse, she was trying to make me jealous flerting ridiculously hard with my best friend in front of me. I feel very distant from her now, completely different from a few days ago. :(

What the hell happened?? Man..I thought women were complicated but that is chaos!

What should I do? If someone has a good advice I would really appreciate it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She's just not that in to you.

So it was just you and her in a room together in a quiet darkened library? And you didn't at least go for a kiss then? Oh well, lesson learned.

Believe it or not there are plenty of chicks out there, cut this one out of your mind and keep moving, keep learning.


Oh and women aren't complicated, we just make it that way. Don't think so much and life uncomplicates itself.
 

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scrouds said:
She's just not that in to you.

So it was just you and her in a room together in a quiet darkened library? And you didn't at least go for a kiss then? Oh well, lesson learned.

Believe it or not there are plenty of chicks out there, cut this one out of your mind and keep moving, keep learning.


Oh and women aren't complicated, we just make it that way. Don't think so much and life uncomplicates itself.
what if he kissed her and it became awkward? im just curious what would be the appropriate action to a "failed" move
 

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BongDuy said:
what if he kissed her and it became awkward? im just curious what would be the appropriate action to a "failed" move
That is a million times better than never making a move. If a move is failed at least you have a clear answer that there is no chance. If you don't make a move, you may never know.

Believe me, I am the master at never making moves and having things end up horribly wrong anyways. The situation would not be any worse than it is now with a couple of girls had I mad moves on them.
The Sixteen Commandments Of Poon said:
Touching a woman inappropriately on the first date will get you further with her than not touching her at all.

Don’t let a woman’s faux indignation at your boldness sway you; they secretly love it when a man aggressively pursues what he wants and makes his sexual intentions known. You don’t have to be an asshole, but if you have no choice, being an inconsiderate asshole beats being a polite beta, every time.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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