"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Need advice: Should i pursue?

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hey guys need you advice on something... i was cleaning my room and came across my senior yearbook (i graduated high school last year) and i was reading all the comments and i saw this one of this girl saying that she hopes we keep in touch (i never read this). So i remember that she requested me on facebook a few months back and i accepted. I didn't think much of it.

So i messaged her yesterday and saying "wats up having talked to you ina while? what school do you go to" she replies back and says "hey wassup i know its been 4ever lol" she then told me she just transferred to a school that is close to mine. I messaged her back and said " oh snap you're going to the party school huh? i haven't talked to anyone from our high school. we should hang out sometime" she replies me back and says "o i didnt know it was a party school lol. but yea hit me up sometime (gives her number)"

So know i was wondering is this just her being friendly and giving her number to me and hoping that i never call? or is she somewhat interested and wants me to call?

So gentlemen... what should my next step be? should i call or text and set a date to hang out with her? should it be us to alone or should i tell her to invite other people? and last but not least where should we go?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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lol hahaha thanks so call her up? so i'll call her up on wednesday or something. i was thinking going to dinner or something... get some alcohol if possible and going from there. my other option is inviting her to go clubbing.
 
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hack ya dood. She looks like shes interested. Call her up and take her out.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DO NOT GO CLUBBING! Just my opinion. It's been so long since you talked to her and you want to bring her to a place where you can't hear the person next to you screaming in your ear?

I always like the more laid back bars for a first date, maybe a walk down the boardwalk.
 
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You’re in the best possible situation to meet women: college. Pick up in college, in my personal opinion, is WAYYY easier than pick up in the real world. Here’s the thing, at least in my experience in college, it’s going to be way more weird to go on a date with a girl rather than just invite her out to party, get her hammered and go from there.

College is a place to hook-up, not go on formal dates, I mean you can, but I certainly don’t’ think it’s the most efficient route to seal the deal.

Simple as that, find a good bumpin party to go to, invite some cool friends out to social proof yourself and then bring her along. If she doesn’t know anyone, she’ll be clinging onto you the entire night. I’ve closed the deal with a few girls like this. I mean lets be real, she’s clinging on to you, she’s got a few drinks in her, and you’re totally social proofed, if that doesn’t make it easy enough, than I’m at a loss.

Be sure to work in some solid comfort too, I think you’ll find this of help:

http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/2005/06/importance-of-vulnerability-story.html

So there you go, hope that helps.

-Kevin
 
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