Need advice - Realisation - I have no "real" game

[darksprezzatura]

At this point of time in my life, I have hundreds of lays, just 30+ kill count but NONE of this happened through cold approach at random places.

90% of the time I've had first date lays with women who are already out with me.

Currently I'm spinning 4 plates, most of whom I found online or through mutual friends.

It helps that I have thousands of followers on instagram due to my hobbies.

I have approached women irl few times in my life - in the gym, at school, at the events I perform at, but have 0 lays in that "random cold approach" bracket.

If someone introduces me to a woman, I can spit game ez.

This is a hinderance as it makes me rely on digital platforms.

I want your advice and guidance on how to up my game that I could talk to any random woman, managing the approach anxiety, pull numbers and close.

Books, programs, free articles etc are welcome.

 

[sosousage]

all game is just talking stupid crap, showing abundance, being handsome and smiling and joking dumbly

 

[darksprezzatura]

I haven't approached a random woman romantically I don't know or have no social circle/common activity say in a mall.

The what if questions going on in my mind are -

- what if she slaps me
- what if she calls her husband/boyfriend, or the police
- what if I get a creepy stalker image approaching lots of random women

I understand this is basically the approach anxiety deluding me.

What's you advice on this?

 

[skinnyguy]

Sounds like you’re a natural player. Why do you need cold approach success so bad? If I were you I’d continue to meet women the same way. Top guys aren’t cold approaching at all because women go to them first.

RSD is moving away from cold approach and toward online and social circle game.

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

I haven't approached a random woman romantically I don't know or have no social circle/common activity say in a mall.

The what if questions going on in my mind are -

- what if she slaps me
- what if she calls her husband/boyfriend, or the police
- what if I get a creepy stalker image approaching lots of random women

I understand this is basically the approach anxiety deluding me.

What's you advice on this?

List all the positive possible outcomes.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Sounds like you’re a natural player. Why do you need cold approach success so bad? If I were you I’d continue to meet women the same way. Top guys aren’t cold approaching at all because women go to them first.

RSD is moving away from cold approach and toward online and social circle game.

Because it's not about getting the women, it's about me.

I want to cold approach and have the confidence to talk to any random woman in my field of vision and spit game.

This is a means to expand my abundance mentality.

I could just go out, get digits, pull at my convenience without being dependent on my social media presence.

What I'm doing about it during this lockdown fiasco:

- reading mystery method again (it has worked for me well) in the context of cold approaching.

- working out at home

- cooking my own protein meals

- making crazy music

- grooming myself

I resolve to approach 3 women a day the day the lockdown ends.

Till then I'll just put enough effort to prevent the current plates from crashing.

I have my own flavour of game that I could easily push to strike a conversation with anyone, as I'm a performer.

My art immediately displays high value, breaks ice and needs no props.

Let's see how it goes.

I'll start a thread "3 approach/day field report and post here everyday" maybe you guys can help refine it.

 

[darksprezzatura]

List all the positive possible outcomes.

This is just the right kind of neuro linguistic programming I needed. Does wonders to frame.

Thank you @Ohso-Phresh