hello fellow DJ's im not exactly hopeless with women but i have one problem that i just cant work out so would appreciate any feedback: ive known this girl since i was at school (not to speak too) and now she works at this local bar, and i got talking too her and i couldnt believe my luck she wanted my number! i mean you can imagine i couldnt stop stop smiling i was loving it, and i think because i was so keane, infact too keane, i was always txting her, i think it was because i liked her that much i was infactuated beyond the point of annoying her, even though she liked me in the first place i was killing the attraction for her. And then week by week went and it got worse, she started not replying to my txts, and eveytime i saw her at the bar she'd take less interest in me (body language wise) and i admit i was shy to speak to her i hadnt even called her on the phone because i couldnt verbally ' break the ice ' due to fear of messing up, and then it wasnt until last week after reading tips off sosuave by all you mature DJ's i realised where i was going wrong so i laid off her abit and started being my self more and last night i was in the bar with my pal and i just went up and started speaking to her for a good couple of hours with applying DJ trickery and i think she might be attracted again but because i messed up before taking all that time trying to get in her pants shes got a boyfriend now! so i think ive blown it! so please how do i actually make her realise im the one for her not her new boyfriend, there must be a DJ miracle way that when she tries to sleep at night she cant because im the only thing she can think of! please DJ's help!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
need advice plz
- Thread starter CJDJ
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
LOL - quit being so desperate. Use this as a learning experience, because you're not getting in her pants and you're not "the one for her."
Sorry, man. Just use this as a learning experience and next time don't text all the time. Call and set up a date. It's easy.
Sorry, man. Just use this as a learning experience and next time don't text all the time. Call and set up a date. It's easy.
Spookey
Don Juan
there isnt enough time to chase all the good chicks in the world, but this doesn't mean only go after one. i bet she has hot friends, pivot onto them!
more on, dont waste your time on her. yes it hurts because you wanted her, but wait a while, im sure you will find someone you want just as much, if not more.
move on. practice on other chicks. *maybe* come back and have another shot at her in a few years
more on, dont waste your time on her. yes it hurts because you wanted her, but wait a while, im sure you will find someone you want just as much, if not more.
there is no miracle drug all you can do is put forward your best self and hope she says yes. yes you can stack the deck by seducing her, but thats not something that comes overnight, you have to work on it.
move on. practice on other chicks. *maybe* come back and have another shot at her in a few years
brucevangeorge
Banned
fo shizzle da nizzle yo.
yo, yo, yo-yo.
Dude, read the DJ Bible. This is a very COMMON problem. The bible has your exact answer written by some of the best posters of sosuave history.
Read it and come back here if you have unresolved issues that are not covered.
yo, yo, yo-yo.
Dude, read the DJ Bible. This is a very COMMON problem. The bible has your exact answer written by some of the best posters of sosuave history.
Read it and come back here if you have unresolved issues that are not covered.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.