Need advice on supermarket girl

[Tbill]

Hello again,
I thought it would be wise to get advice before I screw stuff up. So herrrrrre weeee go.

So there is a girl I have seen on and off for about a year at the supermarket checkout line. I am not sure how to figure out if she is fake nice or nice. I have stared and smiled at her while I we are talking and she seems kewl with it. When I say bye to her she usually gives me akward goodbyes. She is a pretty bubbly person so I am not sure what kind of test I need to throw out to see what her interest level is.
We have only talked about her schooling and blah blah. I try to make some jokes but most of the time my mind goes blank--still and idiot under fire.

Thanks for any advice before I screw this one up.

 

[Night-hawk]

I replied to your other post...related looks like.

First, screw what up? I would say, avoid thinking like that, because all that does is put unnecessary pressure on yourself. And you can help avoid this by keeping from asking her questions that hint at you wanting her but rather asking her questions that get her hinting at you being a challenge and the prize.

Lot's of guys take rejection bad because they set themselves up to take it personally.

 

[BobMo']

This is the "mature Man" forum. How old are you?

 

[Tbill]

I am 35

 

[bigneil]

A year? You already screwed up if you waited a year.

Guys, if you meet a girl and you don't get SERIOUS interest RIGHT AWAY (i.e., a compliment, a touch, serious eye contact, a date, a kiss), move on. When you look at a woman you are experiencing her reaction to you. If it's not what you want, change the woman or change yourself.

 

[Night-hawk]

Fact is she already said no and 'inappropriate' to you. A skilled DJ can use that to his advantage. I do, however, feel you are chasing your tail here TB. Don't run in circles to chase what doesn't have a reason to catch.

That is to say, you have fancied this girl, because for a year you have been thinking about HOW to GET her and the chase has you hooked...usually we want this the other way around with girls

 

[Tbill]

Thanks everyone for your help!