"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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KillingTime

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Girl i've had my eye on, she had a b/f but I was still flirting a lot to keep her IL up.
Recently, after I started hitting on her she broke up with him. (dont know if that was coincidence or not)
They were going to stay friends it seemed but this guy is pretty AFC, and now after the breakup apparantly he's been acting all stupid with her and just being an idiot. So now she is extremely pissed off at him and just overall pretty bitter about the whole situation. (I know this from her friends btw., haven't and wouldn't talk to her about it)

I've never been put in this situation so I'm not sure which way to go with this. I was being C&F with her and she was responding really well etc., now this fool is being a little b*tch about the breakup and has got her all angry, kinda hard to put my moves on this girl when she's got this fool bothering her and she's obviously angry about the situation.
So im lost now, should I just keep up what I was doing? Or back off for a while and let her cool off? Definately don't want to "support her" too much or she'll turn me into an emotional tampon before I know it.
Stupid AFC's.... i had this girl right where I wanted her now she's all moody
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KillingTime

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Well i tried..... but failed, the girl is all bitter now and is going through some kind of "i hate all guys" stage (thanks to her femenist friends too!)

Sucks, I could have this girl by now if that stupid AFC hadn't gotten involved. Oh well, next in line.... although this one will prolly come back.
 

KillingTime

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She also told me that "guys are @$$holes", like out of nowhere. I just backed the hell off before she started talkin about her problems.

That got me thinking tho... if that ever happens again with another girl... how do you reply to that??
 

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Sounds more to me like she's testing you. I'm guessing that when she said guys were ass****s you said something like
"No, we're not all that bad!! Look at me, I'm ****y and funny!! I'm a good guy!!!"

In which case, you failed. In my experience, when a woman makes a comment like that, the best response is

"You got it. In fact, we're all jerks (or whatever) by your standard. You should stop hanging out with all guys, including me."

Or...."You poor thing!! Maybe a cookie, or a nice red balloon would make you feel better?"

Or..."Now you're just being a baby. He was a sweet guy--he'll put up with your whining more than I will."

She's trying to see if you'll put up with that crap too. Show her that you can get up and leave any time.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ugh, if she's just gonna piss and moan to you, then it sounds like its time to Next her ass. Doesn't sound like a fun girl to be around.

NEXT!
 
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