"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need advice on leaving messeges on VM and answering machines

El MonoLoco

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I'm really bad at this for some reason....

I get all ready to talk to someone, I know exactly what I'm going to say and...

pleas leave a messege after the beep


:cuss:

Then my mind goes blank and I end up stumbling all over myself sounding like a total fool.

I wish this was just a problem with chicks but I can't leave an intelligible messege on anyone's voice mail. I think its a matter of being prepared but I don't like sounding rehersed...I should probably take some notes first...

What do you guys think???


:rockon:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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"Hey it's Francisco, Thursday night I'm going to [fill in the blank], wanna tag along? Let me know before Tuesday night, later." Click...

Simple, straight forward, specific and time framed. That's all you need to do. :up:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
"Hey it's Francisco, Thursday night I'm going to [fill in the blank], wanna tag along? Let me know before Tuesday night, later." Click...

Simple, straight forward, specific and time framed. That's all you need to do. :up:
It's a good point to put a time frame within the message.
 

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godsgifttowomen said:
I rarely if ever leave messages. Keep the ball in your court.

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how are you keeping the ball on your court when everybody these days has caller id?
 

El MonoLoco

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Yea I'm not a fan of calling and hanging up without leaving a messege...perhaps I should be...

I just figure that if they don't answer that they are busy, not at home, don't have their phone on them....any number of reasons that people don't pick up....

but again....I don't just have this problem with chicks it's an everybody kind of thing... I get so focused on talking to a person that leaving a messege just isn't on my mind so I funk it up.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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