"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Need advice on leaving messeges on VM and answering machines

El MonoLoco

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I'm really bad at this for some reason....

I get all ready to talk to someone, I know exactly what I'm going to say and...

pleas leave a messege after the beep


:cuss:

Then my mind goes blank and I end up stumbling all over myself sounding like a total fool.

I wish this was just a problem with chicks but I can't leave an intelligible messege on anyone's voice mail. I think its a matter of being prepared but I don't like sounding rehersed...I should probably take some notes first...

What do you guys think???


:rockon:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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"Hey it's Francisco, Thursday night I'm going to [fill in the blank], wanna tag along? Let me know before Tuesday night, later." Click...

Simple, straight forward, specific and time framed. That's all you need to do. :up:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
"Hey it's Francisco, Thursday night I'm going to [fill in the blank], wanna tag along? Let me know before Tuesday night, later." Click...

Simple, straight forward, specific and time framed. That's all you need to do. :up:
It's a good point to put a time frame within the message.
 

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godsgifttowomen said:
I rarely if ever leave messages. Keep the ball in your court.

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how are you keeping the ball on your court when everybody these days has caller id?
 

El MonoLoco

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Yea I'm not a fan of calling and hanging up without leaving a messege...perhaps I should be...

I just figure that if they don't answer that they are busy, not at home, don't have their phone on them....any number of reasons that people don't pick up....

but again....I don't just have this problem with chicks it's an everybody kind of thing... I get so focused on talking to a person that leaving a messege just isn't on my mind so I funk it up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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