"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Met this girl in december and dated for a few weeks, we never became exclusive however she came on strong, we moved fast, but she dropped me hard with some lame excuses. Real reason was another guy. I moved on with NC but a few weeks ago we started talking again slowly after she ended it with him. I was aloof at first and have been trying to remain mysterious, finally saw her last Friday and it went very well, slept over, had sex, she said lets leave the past in the past. Saw her again Monday but she was less intimate and seems to be somewhat distant by the amount she texts and her enthusiasm in them. I am sleeping with other girls but fall hard for her. I don't need to get burned a second time and need you guys to bring me back down to earth on this one. How should I proceed?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Step up your interaction with other girls. You're "other girl" dosage is severely lacking if you're getting this bad a case of oneitis. It's really the only reliable way to proceed when dealing with oneitis.

You guys aren't exclusive so there's no reason for you to catch this kind of feelings.
 

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I think the oneitis comes from the fact that she is the type that will text all day. I don't respond to every text and don't always reply right away, sometimes waiting a few hours, but the constant contact definitely perpetuates my feelings.
 
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