I am interesting in this guy in a grade above me. He is really cute and (amazingly) very nice. Other than going up and introducing myself, what is the best way to meet him? Could anyone share an innovative way of meeting someone they like? FYI, I am working on networking my way into his circle of friends, hanging out where he is likely to be, and finding out what he is interested in. I am looking for a non-obvious approach. I don’t mind if it takes time to develop. Any innovative ideas?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Need Advice On How To Meet That Special Person
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
NorwegianDJ
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Im assuming that you are a girl? You should clarify this, as over 95% here are guys and the site is generally guy oriented.
One thing I need to ask, are you hot? Are you fat? If you are hot, then great, if you're fat, then I can hopefully help you with that. That's off topic though.
Back to my intended ONE THING that you need to know: In High School, people like people that like them. Percieved value is of course added to this, but that is generally how it is. Value + emotions (generally for attracting girls) + showing interest, often = attraction.
Value to a guy is of course, your looks and your reputation ("She's a *****" "She's the hottest one" etc). Like me, guys don't want their friends to think bad of them, but good of them, based on what girls they hook up with. This is why Im often in indecision about whether to go for a girl or not.
It's also nice if you put out, if you know what I mean.
So lets get to the point. To be honest, just go say hi; however, I know you probably wont do that. Something else that can be really hot is if you catch eyecontact with him, hold it and smile. Im sure other people here can think of something. If nothing works out, please approach him and see what happens.
One thing I need to ask, are you hot? Are you fat? If you are hot, then great, if you're fat, then I can hopefully help you with that. That's off topic though.
Back to my intended ONE THING that you need to know: In High School, people like people that like them. Percieved value is of course added to this, but that is generally how it is. Value + emotions (generally for attracting girls) + showing interest, often = attraction.
Value to a guy is of course, your looks and your reputation ("She's a *****" "She's the hottest one" etc). Like me, guys don't want their friends to think bad of them, but good of them, based on what girls they hook up with. This is why Im often in indecision about whether to go for a girl or not.
It's also nice if you put out, if you know what I mean.
So lets get to the point. To be honest, just go say hi; however, I know you probably wont do that. Something else that can be really hot is if you catch eyecontact with him, hold it and smile. Im sure other people here can think of something. If nothing works out, please approach him and see what happens.
Jack Wealthy
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Ok; as I'm neither a girl nor gay, my advice is not from experience but my own opinion. A great opinion because I'm a guy who likes girls.
First up, what type of guy is this? If he's average popularity, just wink at him or something. Or text him/msg over facebook asking how his day was... Only an idiot could miss such signs. If he's super cool though (or very good looking) he may be used to such indirect attention and it either takes lots of persistance or a very powerful move to overcome this and stand out. For the first, slowly escalate it from fb msgs and winks to casual conversation and light touching to 'vck me' eyes. The second just wait for him to be alone and tell him how you feel.
Actually, you may have to tell him how you feel no matter what because guys can sometimes ignore signs that aren't verbal or overtly physical... sorry...
If you're unnactrattive, the best you can do is wait for him to be alone and put out. It's not a movie where he'll wreck you're rep and tell everyone, if you're not hot he won't want anyone to know either. Though he may repeat the story but say it was a crazy hot Brazilian chick. Having said that, I'm assuming you just want sex which probably isn't true. A relationship requires a certain amount of publicity, without it he will A) Cheat on you or B) Tell you it wasn't really a relationship as a way to break up with you.
Good luck
First up, what type of guy is this? If he's average popularity, just wink at him or something. Or text him/msg over facebook asking how his day was... Only an idiot could miss such signs. If he's super cool though (or very good looking) he may be used to such indirect attention and it either takes lots of persistance or a very powerful move to overcome this and stand out. For the first, slowly escalate it from fb msgs and winks to casual conversation and light touching to 'vck me' eyes. The second just wait for him to be alone and tell him how you feel.
Actually, you may have to tell him how you feel no matter what because guys can sometimes ignore signs that aren't verbal or overtly physical... sorry...
If you're unnactrattive, the best you can do is wait for him to be alone and put out. It's not a movie where he'll wreck you're rep and tell everyone, if you're not hot he won't want anyone to know either. Though he may repeat the story but say it was a crazy hot Brazilian chick. Having said that, I'm assuming you just want sex which probably isn't true. A relationship requires a certain amount of publicity, without it he will A) Cheat on you or B) Tell you it wasn't really a relationship as a way to break up with you.
Good luck
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Whoever or whatever you are you need to re-read what you posted in another perspective to gauge just how creepy you sounded.
You sound like some kind of a stalker. This behavior is the type of clingy behavior that virtually everyone is repulsed by regardless of gender or sexuality.
Jack Wealthy
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No, that's what most younger girls do mate. Having hung out with younger girls, they have literally caught my bus to watch me for fifteen minutes, then caught it back to the station then to their house. A lot of them do it, it's their way of saying they're interested because they're to shy to actually talk to me and usually can't keep up half a convo because of nerves.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.