I am interesting in this guy in a grade above me. He is really cute and (amazingly) very nice. Other than going up and introducing myself, what is the best way to meet him? Could anyone share an innovative way of meeting someone they like? FYI, I am working on networking my way into his circle of friends, hanging out where he is likely to be, and finding out what he is interested in. I am looking for a non-obvious approach. I don’t mind if it takes time to develop. Any innovative ideas?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
NorwegianDJ
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Im assuming that you are a girl? You should clarify this, as over 95% here are guys and the site is generally guy oriented.
One thing I need to ask, are you hot? Are you fat? If you are hot, then great, if you're fat, then I can hopefully help you with that. That's off topic though.
Back to my intended ONE THING that you need to know: In High School, people like people that like them. Percieved value is of course added to this, but that is generally how it is. Value + emotions (generally for attracting girls) + showing interest, often = attraction.
Value to a guy is of course, your looks and your reputation ("She's a *****" "She's the hottest one" etc). Like me, guys don't want their friends to think bad of them, but good of them, based on what girls they hook up with. This is why Im often in indecision about whether to go for a girl or not.
It's also nice if you put out, if you know what I mean.
So lets get to the point. To be honest, just go say hi; however, I know you probably wont do that. Something else that can be really hot is if you catch eyecontact with him, hold it and smile. Im sure other people here can think of something. If nothing works out, please approach him and see what happens.
One thing I need to ask, are you hot? Are you fat? If you are hot, then great, if you're fat, then I can hopefully help you with that. That's off topic though.
Back to my intended ONE THING that you need to know: In High School, people like people that like them. Percieved value is of course added to this, but that is generally how it is. Value + emotions (generally for attracting girls) + showing interest, often = attraction.
Value to a guy is of course, your looks and your reputation ("She's a *****" "She's the hottest one" etc). Like me, guys don't want their friends to think bad of them, but good of them, based on what girls they hook up with. This is why Im often in indecision about whether to go for a girl or not.
It's also nice if you put out, if you know what I mean.
So lets get to the point. To be honest, just go say hi; however, I know you probably wont do that. Something else that can be really hot is if you catch eyecontact with him, hold it and smile. Im sure other people here can think of something. If nothing works out, please approach him and see what happens.
Jack Wealthy
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Ok; as I'm neither a girl nor gay, my advice is not from experience but my own opinion. A great opinion because I'm a guy who likes girls.
First up, what type of guy is this? If he's average popularity, just wink at him or something. Or text him/msg over facebook asking how his day was... Only an idiot could miss such signs. If he's super cool though (or very good looking) he may be used to such indirect attention and it either takes lots of persistance or a very powerful move to overcome this and stand out. For the first, slowly escalate it from fb msgs and winks to casual conversation and light touching to 'vck me' eyes. The second just wait for him to be alone and tell him how you feel.
Actually, you may have to tell him how you feel no matter what because guys can sometimes ignore signs that aren't verbal or overtly physical... sorry...
If you're unnactrattive, the best you can do is wait for him to be alone and put out. It's not a movie where he'll wreck you're rep and tell everyone, if you're not hot he won't want anyone to know either. Though he may repeat the story but say it was a crazy hot Brazilian chick. Having said that, I'm assuming you just want sex which probably isn't true. A relationship requires a certain amount of publicity, without it he will A) Cheat on you or B) Tell you it wasn't really a relationship as a way to break up with you.
Good luck
First up, what type of guy is this? If he's average popularity, just wink at him or something. Or text him/msg over facebook asking how his day was... Only an idiot could miss such signs. If he's super cool though (or very good looking) he may be used to such indirect attention and it either takes lots of persistance or a very powerful move to overcome this and stand out. For the first, slowly escalate it from fb msgs and winks to casual conversation and light touching to 'vck me' eyes. The second just wait for him to be alone and tell him how you feel.
Actually, you may have to tell him how you feel no matter what because guys can sometimes ignore signs that aren't verbal or overtly physical... sorry...
If you're unnactrattive, the best you can do is wait for him to be alone and put out. It's not a movie where he'll wreck you're rep and tell everyone, if you're not hot he won't want anyone to know either. Though he may repeat the story but say it was a crazy hot Brazilian chick. Having said that, I'm assuming you just want sex which probably isn't true. A relationship requires a certain amount of publicity, without it he will A) Cheat on you or B) Tell you it wasn't really a relationship as a way to break up with you.
Good luck
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Whoever or whatever you are you need to re-read what you posted in another perspective to gauge just how creepy you sounded.
You sound like some kind of a stalker. This behavior is the type of clingy behavior that virtually everyone is repulsed by regardless of gender or sexuality.
Jack Wealthy
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No, that's what most younger girls do mate. Having hung out with younger girls, they have literally caught my bus to watch me for fifteen minutes, then caught it back to the station then to their house. A lot of them do it, it's their way of saying they're interested because they're to shy to actually talk to me and usually can't keep up half a convo because of nerves.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.