"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need advice on hot late 40's broad

Falcon Eye

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Hi guys, it's been a while. Here's the storey, Iv'e met this hot, very confident, self sufficient woman online. She's single and has a geat job.

Tells me she'd like some fun in her life; fun being sex. I like what I saw and what I heard. We emailed a lot, I resisted a bit as I'm involved with my 45 year old that I spoke about months ago. Some may recall.


Anyway we met for lunch, talked, and all went well. Looks like sex is in our future. She seems to have pulled back a little. Now she keeps a busy schedule and that could be it. I called her Saturday past and she tells me she's good to go for sex.

I'm trying my all not to act AFC with this woman and to try to be a challenge, but it hard as hell. I want her so much I can taste her.

She's a female DJ; no joking.

How to proceed? Any advice for bedding this woman?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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gunf1ghter

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Originally posted by Falcon Eye
I called her Saturday past and she tells me she's good to go for sex.
Hmm, you may have stumbled on to something...it never occurred to me to just ask a girl out for coffee and some sex.

As for you, you've won. Who cares why or how, just get in there and do it.
 

Falcon Eye

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Problem is I haven't won.

I haven't bedded this broad yet. I'm telling you she's a female DJ. Not always available, cuts things short on the phone and IM.

Truth is, I'm tempted everyday to call her. The brain knows what to do but the heart doesn't want to cooperate. I guess I just need someone to kick me in the pants so I don't go AFC and screw this all up.
 

stevera004

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Originally posted by Falcon Eye
Hi guys, it's been a while. Here's the storey, Iv'e met this hot, very confident, self sufficient woman online. She's single and has a geat job.

Tells me she'd like some fun in her life; fun being sex. I like what I saw and what I heard. We emailed a lot, I resisted a bit as I'm involved with my 45 year old that I spoke about months ago. Some may recall.

I'm trying my all not to act AFC with this woman and to try to be a challenge, but it hard as hell. I want her so much I can taste her.

She's a female DJ; no joking.

How to proceed? Any advice for bedding this woman?
Come on. You know better (you have 90 posts and as such are a board veteran); there is no advice in the world for bedding any particular broad. Following DJ'ism will increase your chance of success, but there are no guarrantees in life.

Don't be so intimidated by her. She's a 45 year old chick for god's sake. She ain't no DJ neither; she's just mirroring what she finds attractive in men.

You need to turn up the charm a notch; or better yet, forget her. I don't think there are any 45 year old women that are worth too much effort.

Good luck.
 
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