"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Need advice. "Girl problems."

ThatOneInternetGuy

New Member
Joined
Jul 12, 2014
Messages
3
Reaction score
0
So a few days ago I meet a girl and got her number 2 days later I called but she didnt answer, so I figured I'd give it a try the next day ( Which was yesterday). She once again didnt answer so I figured it was her way of saying "not interested". But 2 minutes afterwards she texted me saying " Hey I'll give you a call later:) busy right now." but it's already the next day and I havent heard from her. Any idea what that means? I won't contact her again though as to not seem clingy. Just confused is all and I'd like to here your thoughts. Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

blind_one

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 21, 2012
Messages
648
Reaction score
233
Location
Eye of the storm
You might try calling her again in a couple of days after some inactive time, but IMHO that would be desperate, spin plates bro, more of them.
 

Don-Kong

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 15, 2014
Messages
265
Reaction score
13
It's easy to assume she's not interested.
It's better to assume:

I am a strong confident man. Chicks are naturally anxious and somewhat intimidated. I want a strong, sexy, confident woman who is not afraid to live life and take risks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Igetit!

Moderator
Joined
Jul 13, 2008
Messages
2,880
Reaction score
920
Location
The United State of Texas
blind_one said:
You might try calling her again in a couple of days after some inactive time, but IMHO that would be desperate, spin plates bro, more of them.

Yeah,spinning places is the best thing you can do.

I had a date scheduled for TODAY.....it's actually supposed to take place in 2 hours. Me and the girl had been messaging each other for the past 3 days back and forth on this dating site. Her last email to me was her asking me the address of the place we were supposed to meet up at.

I replied back giving her the address,but never heard anything back from her. That was yesterday. Our date is supposed to be two hours (4:00pm) from now,but check this out......

I also have another date with a different girl scheduled for tomorrow at noon. Well the girl I have the date with tomorrow,she text me that she's getting off work today early and wanted to know if I'd prefer to meet up today instead.


In my mind I was like,"Well damn.....I don't want to tell the second chick yes,then all of the sudden,the first chick decides to show back up". So now I'm in a bit of a waiting game. I'm waiting til 3:30.....30 minutes before my date with the first chick is supposed to be,and if I don't hear anything from her by then,I'm just going to tell the second one we can go head and meet up.


Point to all this is,HAVE OPTIONS. You said this woman was strange. No she's not......ALL WOMEN pull this from time to time,it's just how it is. It doesn't even mean she's NOT interested....it's just how females be.

I'd let a day or two pass and then contact her,but I'd ALSO be pursuing other chicks as well.
 

AttackFormation

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 2, 2014
Messages
4,055
Reaction score
3,609
Age
33
Location
Sweden
ThatOneInternetGuy said:
So a few days ago I meet a girl and got her number 2 days later I called but she didnt answer, so I figured I'd give it a try the next day ( Which was yesterday). She once again didnt answer so I figured it was her way of saying "not interested". But 2 minutes afterwards she texted me saying " Hey I'll give you a call later:) busy right now." but it's already the next day and I havent heard from her. Any idea what that means? I won't contact her again though as to not seem clingy. Just confused is all and I'd like to here your thoughts. Thanks.
It means she's stringing you along and you need to next her.
 

Sino Zane

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 21, 2014
Messages
64
Reaction score
6
Stringing you along means she's basically saving you as a plan B. because she's not really that interested in you overall. She wouldn't ignore Tom Brady, for instance. If I were you I'd simply never contact her again unless she seems SUPER eager to spend time with you. If she seems super eager to spend time with you, she will DEFINITELY let you know by contacting you way more frequently.
 
Top