"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This happened a few months ago and I had put it out of my head but recently I started to think about it again and wanted to have an answer.

I think I know what the answer is but I just want to hear it from a chick as well.

Invited a chick on a date for a Friday night event that started at 7 pm. Got her number and told her I would call her on Friday and get her address, pick her up and we could both drive to the event.

All Friday I was thinking about the event and going out with her. Drove past her on Friday on the street and saw her with some other guy. I started to get depressed an my bad thoughts overtook me.

Friday night, waited and waited to call her, kept imagining she was going to tell me she was too busy or was going to flake. Finally called her number at 6:45 and let it ring, after two rings I had an incoming call so I hung up and took the call. It was not her but another person, talked with that person for a while then managed to call her back at about 7:10 was going to tell her we should make it another time but her phone went straight to voice mail without even ringing.

Ended up not leaving her a message at all on Friday. Saw her on Wednesday of the following weak and said hi to her, Her first words were, "Are you angry?"

I asked her to explain what she meant but she changes the subject.

I wonder if she asked "Are you angry?" because I called so late and never left a message. Did she think I was canceling the date?

Or does she want to know if I'm angry because she never would have answered her phone and would have flaked on me?

So my own nervousness and stupidity and inner dialog helped F@CK up my own chances with this women. I never followed through and therefor don't know if she would have flaked or not.

So women, what does "Are you angry?" usually mean.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Microfiltered said:
I am not a girl. But “Are you angry” was a sh!t test.
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And....

What was she testing for?
 
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It wasn't a **** test it was a simple question. You blame her for thinking you had some kind of problem with her?

You're a woman - a guy asks you to join him at an event at Friday night. You gladly accept his invitation. The guy calls you letting the phone ring twice, then shuts off. He doesn't show up at your door and hasn't shown any signs of living till Wednesday. He comes up to you five days later saying hi :rolleyes:

So why don't you think about it more reasonably?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DJDamage said:
It means that you are wearing your emotions on your sleeves and she can see right through you.
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No, the "Are you angry?" question was related to what happened on Friday, not right then.
 
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smooth guy said:
It wasn't a **** test it was a simple question. You blame her for thinking you had some kind of problem with her?

You're a woman - a guy asks you to join him at an event at Friday night. You gladly accept his invitation. The guy calls you letting the phone ring twice, then shuts off. He doesn't show up at your door and hasn't shown any signs of living till Wednesday. He comes up to you five days later saying hi :rolleyes:

So why don't you think about it more reasonably?
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Makes a lot of sense to me when you put it that way.
 
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