Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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need advice from women on this chick.

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This happened a few months ago and I had put it out of my head but recently I started to think about it again and wanted to have an answer.

I think I know what the answer is but I just want to hear it from a chick as well.

Invited a chick on a date for a Friday night event that started at 7 pm. Got her number and told her I would call her on Friday and get her address, pick her up and we could both drive to the event.

All Friday I was thinking about the event and going out with her. Drove past her on Friday on the street and saw her with some other guy. I started to get depressed an my bad thoughts overtook me.

Friday night, waited and waited to call her, kept imagining she was going to tell me she was too busy or was going to flake. Finally called her number at 6:45 and let it ring, after two rings I had an incoming call so I hung up and took the call. It was not her but another person, talked with that person for a while then managed to call her back at about 7:10 was going to tell her we should make it another time but her phone went straight to voice mail without even ringing.

Ended up not leaving her a message at all on Friday. Saw her on Wednesday of the following weak and said hi to her, Her first words were, "Are you angry?"

I asked her to explain what she meant but she changes the subject.

I wonder if she asked "Are you angry?" because I called so late and never left a message. Did she think I was canceling the date?

Or does she want to know if I'm angry because she never would have answered her phone and would have flaked on me?

So my own nervousness and stupidity and inner dialog helped F@CK up my own chances with this women. I never followed through and therefor don't know if she would have flaked or not.

So women, what does "Are you angry?" usually mean.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Microfiltered said:
I am not a girl. But “Are you angry” was a sh!t test.
And....

What was she testing for?
 

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It wasn't a **** test it was a simple question. You blame her for thinking you had some kind of problem with her?

You're a woman - a guy asks you to join him at an event at Friday night. You gladly accept his invitation. The guy calls you letting the phone ring twice, then shuts off. He doesn't show up at your door and hasn't shown any signs of living till Wednesday. He comes up to you five days later saying hi :rolleyes:

So why don't you think about it more reasonably?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJDamage said:
It means that you are wearing your emotions on your sleeves and she can see right through you.
No, the "Are you angry?" question was related to what happened on Friday, not right then.
 

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smooth guy said:
It wasn't a **** test it was a simple question. You blame her for thinking you had some kind of problem with her?

You're a woman - a guy asks you to join him at an event at Friday night. You gladly accept his invitation. The guy calls you letting the phone ring twice, then shuts off. He doesn't show up at your door and hasn't shown any signs of living till Wednesday. He comes up to you five days later saying hi :rolleyes:

So why don't you think about it more reasonably?
Makes a lot of sense to me when you put it that way.
 
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