“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Need advice from DJs to deal with neediness

LightOfVictory

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Hi guys.

I have been trying to get rid of neediness from myself by learning to love life.

Im organising more social outings
Going to the gym
Working on my core purpose
Focusing on my academics
Working on my inner self through spirituality
And.. NOT making women the centre of my life.

I would like to get advice from guys who have worked on this part of themselves and have come to the other side.

Thanks!
 
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take up a martial art like longfist Kungfu and dedicate yourself to it 100 percent...either that or a serious sport and give it your all...martial arts, though, are the best IMO for conquering such things...
 

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zinc4 said:
take up a martial art like longfist Kungfu and dedicate yourself to it 100 percent...either that or a serious sport and give it your all...martial arts, though, are the best IMO for conquering such things...
Im interested to know. Why does the cmmunity advocte working out/taking up a sport/being active? U get increased testesterone. But how is that linked to desperation? I mean desperation is a bit more complex, normally arising from lack of childhood affection. Any comment on that?
 

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LightOfVictory said:
Im interested to know. Why does the cmmunity advocte working out/taking up a sport/being active? U get increased testesterone. But how is that linked to desperation? I mean desperation is a bit more complex, normally arising from lack of childhood affection. Any comment on that?
Youre asking "why workout?"

I'm asking YOU. "Why wouldnt you want to take care of the only body you will ever have. Why wouldnt you want to be in a healthy, physically fit shape? Why wouldnt you want to look your best?"

I dunno about childhood affection >>desperation, psychology and "issues" arent my field.
 

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Purefilth said:
Youre asking "why workout?"

I'm asking YOU. "Why wouldnt you want to take care of the only body you will ever have. Why wouldnt you want to be in a healthy, physically fit shape? Why wouldnt you want to look your best?"

I dunno about childhood affection >>desperation, psychology and "issues" arent my field.
Not why workout. But HOW does workout get rid of an emotional issue?

Yes i do take care of my body and do want to look my best. Which is why I go to the gym. I have a workout plan, protein powder and i stick to it.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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LightOfVictory said:
Im interested to know. Why does the cmmunity advocte working out/taking up a sport/being active? U get increased testesterone. But how is that linked to desperation? I mean desperation is a bit more complex, normally arising from lack of childhood affection. Any comment on that?

If you find a good teacher longfist will teach you to become a much stronger, more disciplined and well rounded person in general....also qigong, a huge part of longfist, would do loads of wonders for yourself....your chi field is stuck because of your childhood issues...qigong would get it flowing properly again and you would feel much better and much more at peace...however it is not an overnight or even semi quick process...takes a lot of practice and time and dedication...but after a year you will see a big difference if you have put in the proper time and work ethic......it would also help with your neediness because it would become your source of comfort and your primary ambition if you take it serious...this has nothing to do with testerone levels...runs much deeper than that.
 

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zinc4 said:
If you find a good teacher longfist will teach you to become a much stronger, more disciplined and well rounded person in general....also qigong, a huge part of longfist, would do loads of wonders for yourself....your chi field is stuck because of your childhood issues...qigong would get it flowing properly again and you would feel much better and much more at peace...however it is not an overnight or even semi quick process...takes a lot of practice and time and dedication...but after a year you will see a big difference if you have put in the proper time and work ethic......it would also help with your neediness because it would become your source of comfort and your primary ambition if you take it serious...this has nothing to do with testerone levels...runs much deeper than that.

Yea man. Right now, Im dedicated to applying j.krishnamurthi teachings and doing what eckhart tolle is teaching me. Been at it consistently also. I may think of incorporating yoga, but I dont think ill do qigong.
 

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Your neediness is showing through your constant asking why how why do I need to do this????

Just do. Have some faith that you're on the right path.

As for your childhood issues, get a shrink.
 

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Your neediness is showing through your constant asking why how why do I need to do this????

Just do. Have some faith that you're on the right path.

As for your childhood issues, get a shrink.
Thanks!
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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To be honest I also suffer from neediness, to an extreme level. I'd love to get involved in these types of martial arts. My only question is that, I'm 21. I know people who've done martial arts since they were 10 to 13. Would I need to take another, more basic form of martial arts like karate or basic kung fu before I would be suited to take longarm kung fu?
 
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