i like this girl. girl "broke up" with boyfriend when he moved outa the country. now after i have been applying tips i got from here like kino and things i find out she is going to see him for a month in a few weeks wat should i do. we were getting together really good and now after she said they were done and that she couldnt take the long distance thing she goes back?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
that sucks man i was actually gettin really close to her she coulda told me she was still trying to see that guy. woulda saved me alot of time and effort i had put into it. and the suckiest part is it got to the point she was started to grab my ass and things like that and actually started showing intrest in me ( maybe i am delusional)
coffin said:that sucks man i was actually gettin really close to her she coulda told me she was still trying to see that guy. woulda saved me alot of time and effort i had put into it. and the suckiest part is it got to the point she was started to grab my ass and things like that and actually started showing intrest in me ( maybe i am delusional)
She might like you but it seems she isn't over her boyfriend yet.
You might be putting too much effort into her. She might actually know you really like her. You need to change your mindset because you're putting her on a pedestal. You need to think like you're the prize. You're it. She should be happy to be in your company.
you think so? i didnt even think about it like taht. you know i am the basic "nice guy" and ive been working hard on being a mix of a jerk and nie guy that maybe i was puttin her on a pedistal. i been tryin to get more confidence adn self esteem ive read alot about gaining it and have been putting it to use i think this has been the happiest week of my life (meaning that its been a long time since ive not been depressed) ill try more to realize that she should be the happy one to be around me not the other way around.slaog said:She might like you but it seems she isn't over her boyfriend yet.
You might be putting too much effort into her. She might actually know you really like her. You need to change your mindset because you're putting her on a pedestal. You need to think like you're the prize. You're it. She should be happy to be in your company.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
GO MIA for a while, let her go, if she comes back great if not who cares. I often find that women who just broke up will take any and all attention they can get, but will not be over there ex.
How did you find out? Have you hooked up with her? If you have not hooked up you are just the guy entertaining her while she figures out what she wants to do about him..
How did you find out? Have you hooked up with her? If you have not hooked up you are just the guy entertaining her while she figures out what she wants to do about him..
well i mean i work with her man and one day we were chilling and talking and she goes " we should hang out " os i went out with ehr once but it was more of a smoke up and go thing cuz she ended up bringin her neighbors who had **** to do. like i said maybe i was delusional but after that is when i actually started hitting on her. i acted liek i was a guy with my guy friends. making her see me as a man instead of another girl i was using kino and things like that that i read on here. i did stuff liek touch her arm slide my hand against hers when she handed me things subtle touching that i read helps make ppl see you as more like a person then a ****less ken doll. and she seemed to respond well she kinoed back dn like i said she left that day by grabbing my ass and smilingvitor said:GO MIA for a while, let her go, if she comes back great if not who cares. I often find that women who just broke up will take any and all attention they can get, but will not be over there ex.
How did you find out? Have you hooked up with her? If you have not hooked up you are just the guy entertaining her while she figures out what she wants to do about him..
well i mean i work with her man and one day we were chilling and talking and she goes " we should hang out " os i went out with ehr once but it was more of a smoke up and go thing cuz she ended up bringin her neighbors who had **** to do. like i said maybe i was delusional but after that is when i actually started hitting on her. i acted liek i was a guy with my guy friends. making her see me as a man instead of another girl i was using kino and things like that that i read on here. i did stuff liek touch her arm slide my hand against hers when she handed me things subtle touching that i read helps make ppl see you as more like a person then a ****less ken doll. and she seemed to respond well she kinoed back and like i said she left that day by grabbing my ass and smilingvitor said:GO MIA for a while, let her go, if she comes back great if not who cares. I often find that women who just broke up will take any and all attention they can get, but will not be over there ex.
How did you find out? Have you hooked up with her? If you have not hooked up you are just the guy entertaining her while she figures out what she wants to do about him..
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.