i like this girl. girl "broke up" with boyfriend when he moved outa the country. now after i have been applying tips i got from here like kino and things i find out she is going to see him for a month in a few weeks wat should i do. we were getting together really good and now after she said they were done and that she couldnt take the long distance thing she goes back?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
that sucks man i was actually gettin really close to her she coulda told me she was still trying to see that guy. woulda saved me alot of time and effort i had put into it. and the suckiest part is it got to the point she was started to grab my ass and things like that and actually started showing intrest in me ( maybe i am delusional)
coffin said:that sucks man i was actually gettin really close to her she coulda told me she was still trying to see that guy. woulda saved me alot of time and effort i had put into it. and the suckiest part is it got to the point she was started to grab my ass and things like that and actually started showing intrest in me ( maybe i am delusional)
She might like you but it seems she isn't over her boyfriend yet.
You might be putting too much effort into her. She might actually know you really like her. You need to change your mindset because you're putting her on a pedestal. You need to think like you're the prize. You're it. She should be happy to be in your company.
you think so? i didnt even think about it like taht. you know i am the basic "nice guy" and ive been working hard on being a mix of a jerk and nie guy that maybe i was puttin her on a pedistal. i been tryin to get more confidence adn self esteem ive read alot about gaining it and have been putting it to use i think this has been the happiest week of my life (meaning that its been a long time since ive not been depressed) ill try more to realize that she should be the happy one to be around me not the other way around.slaog said:She might like you but it seems she isn't over her boyfriend yet.
You might be putting too much effort into her. She might actually know you really like her. You need to change your mindset because you're putting her on a pedestal. You need to think like you're the prize. You're it. She should be happy to be in your company.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
GO MIA for a while, let her go, if she comes back great if not who cares. I often find that women who just broke up will take any and all attention they can get, but will not be over there ex.
How did you find out? Have you hooked up with her? If you have not hooked up you are just the guy entertaining her while she figures out what she wants to do about him..
How did you find out? Have you hooked up with her? If you have not hooked up you are just the guy entertaining her while she figures out what she wants to do about him..
well i mean i work with her man and one day we were chilling and talking and she goes " we should hang out " os i went out with ehr once but it was more of a smoke up and go thing cuz she ended up bringin her neighbors who had **** to do. like i said maybe i was delusional but after that is when i actually started hitting on her. i acted liek i was a guy with my guy friends. making her see me as a man instead of another girl i was using kino and things like that that i read on here. i did stuff liek touch her arm slide my hand against hers when she handed me things subtle touching that i read helps make ppl see you as more like a person then a ****less ken doll. and she seemed to respond well she kinoed back dn like i said she left that day by grabbing my ass and smilingvitor said:GO MIA for a while, let her go, if she comes back great if not who cares. I often find that women who just broke up will take any and all attention they can get, but will not be over there ex.
How did you find out? Have you hooked up with her? If you have not hooked up you are just the guy entertaining her while she figures out what she wants to do about him..
well i mean i work with her man and one day we were chilling and talking and she goes " we should hang out " os i went out with ehr once but it was more of a smoke up and go thing cuz she ended up bringin her neighbors who had **** to do. like i said maybe i was delusional but after that is when i actually started hitting on her. i acted liek i was a guy with my guy friends. making her see me as a man instead of another girl i was using kino and things like that that i read on here. i did stuff liek touch her arm slide my hand against hers when she handed me things subtle touching that i read helps make ppl see you as more like a person then a ****less ken doll. and she seemed to respond well she kinoed back and like i said she left that day by grabbing my ass and smilingvitor said:GO MIA for a while, let her go, if she comes back great if not who cares. I often find that women who just broke up will take any and all attention they can get, but will not be over there ex.
How did you find out? Have you hooked up with her? If you have not hooked up you are just the guy entertaining her while she figures out what she wants to do about him..
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.