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Need advice! Avoiding break up with girlfriend!

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Keep us posted on the outcome bro.
 

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MacDiddy: I dissagree with you on this one... if his chick did not care or WANT to be with him, she wouldnt hesitate to tale the opportunity to break up when he ASKED/TOLD her that thats what thyey should do.. no... she rather sms'ed him and tried to get him to go out with her on Saturday, and she tried to convince him to go on the trip with her... This girl is far from WANTING to break up with him... she is just at a stage where she is really confused and doesnt know what to do, but when the confusion is over, she will realise that she DOES want to be with him.. i have seen this bs plenty times in my life... too many times actually, and thats one of the thing that most frustrates me about women, they are so fucll of sh!t sometimes, that they confuse themselves!

Overall, this girl HAD THE CHANCE to end it when they were talking and Trance suggested that they break up, but she didnt end it there, and then she tried to convince him to go with her on the trip and on Saturday night.... the reason for this, IMO is that she is not 100% sure what she wants, and she NEEDS to spend more time with him in order to be able to "see clearly" and KNOW what she wants, and the chances are, are that she will SEE that she will be giving up something so special, and she will realise that she DOES really like/love Trance, and she will make the decision to stay with him... So ya, i think this girl is far from WANTING to end things with him... she might think that its for the best because of the last 2 weeks where she was not "treated" the same seeing that Trance had all his exams etc and her mood being as unstable as it is, she jumped to the conclusion that he was cheating or that something was wrong, and then came to the conclusion of her not being happy/feeling arkward. The sex issue is a very small one, and can be fixed in no time.. maybe to HER it was a big deal and now she might feel abit arkward about it, but he will stop talking to her about it like he did, and in the near future thatproblem will be fixed, and the arkwardness will fade away.

This girl is lost and needs directing, she doesnt seem to be able to "find" herself at the moment.... so Trance: DIRECT her and "show her the light";)


Laterz...
 

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This chicks behaviour is intolerable.. I wouldn't give it too much of my attention....

She has said alot of things, things which a contradictory and things which on the surface makes sense, but given the context of this relationship breakdown, I say there is some truths but most is all posturing.... Getting the best emotional deal in the relationship breakup aftermath....

As for her wanting him to go on this trip, he in justified in questioning its viability since she won't be treating him as a BF so what is the point. He'll just have a miserable time... I suspect she want him to go as a backup, provide her with more choice... incase she gets bored she can bounce of him.... Nothing in what I've read gives me the impression that this trip is like a "saving our relationship trip"

My beef is that you guys are putting too much credence on what she says... If trance fixes up everything on her list of problems, its still won't be enuff....

However, if I am wrong then you will be right ~ªêQµïTª$~

I don't mind being wrong because this quy will get the chick back as a result of getting the power back. He will need it if he is to lead her out of her confusion... and I will be happy for him!!! And I can only see this happening if he takes Cactus's advice and cut her off... she needs a shock to her process system...
 

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thx for the feedback guys.

I used to be one of the guys who posted here on the forum NEXT, NEXT, NEXT, but now i have a diferent understanding of relations. Specially since she's a younger girl, and i have a lot of younger friends of her age and i see how their relations work. Even that couple that the guy is big friend of mine, and girl is best friend of my girl they broke up on sevaral ocasions, and if the guy followed the advice here NEXT NEXT NEXT, they wouldnt be together and happy as they are today.


Today i was with her, we went for a cofee in the morning, she made our payments for the trip. In the afternoon, we went for walk and latter at my place. We had some fun time, i'm really feeling confortable right now. Of course i would like to be sexing her too, but its not being a big deal for me. We had a nice time in eachother's company, hugged a lot. I'm not feeling sad about this or anything. If it was about sex, 2 girls invited me last night to go out with them as soon as i said i had broke up!!

About the trip she told me for me and my friend try to get another guy for our room (its 3 ppl room's) that wont be around, and so her and her girlfriend are going to get another girl that latter goes to a diferent room, so that we can be me and her in a room, and our friends in the other room. Obviously this was very nice to hear, and i think that it shows she has intentions of being there as boyfriends.
In any case, all i want is either be with her for a lot more time, or have a nice trip with her, go out a lot there and have crazy sex, and if things dont work out soon when we come back, we'll end up and have memories of nice times together, and both will move on.

What do you guys think of what she said about the rooms in the trip? Good sign hum?
 

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This is definatelly a good sign:) ... And if your girl is being genuine with her actions, then she is exactly like what i described her out to be... she doenst want to end things, she was just really confused, needed time, and needed to be convinved/woken up that she DOES love u, and that u DO love her and what the 2 of you have trully IS special;)

I think that the more time she spent with you, the more she actually realised that breaking up is actually NOT the right thing to do.. and yes, from what i gather, she DOES love u alot, and i KNOW that u love her too, so staying togeather only makes sence!

About the sex story.. dont worry about it.. go out with her, have fun... and it will happen natrually again, so dont worry about THAT, it will happen, sooner or later;)

I'm happy to hear the good news man... and i wish you the BEST of luck for the future with your girl!;)


Laterz...
 

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Originally posted by MacDiddy
think back about how your courtship was like, you were bold, confident, knew what you want, alpha, charming, not this whiny, understanding, beta AFC dude that you are now....
Actually in my courtship, it was kinda like now, both having a nice time together, she having doubts if i just wanted to sex her not, and flaking my kisses for 2 weeks till she was more sure of my intentions. It was fun seducing her.


Aequitas: Thx again dude ;)

I got to know today that the girlfriend of her's was the one who incited her with doubts, that told her she wouldnt let her boyfriend be during all week away in the other town, doing whatever he's doing, bla bla kind of stuff and suspicious and suspicious, while other girl was telling her that i tell her all about my college town life, that she has nothing to be afraid of. Girls are so influentiable at this age..
 

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hmmm....

Originally posted by Trance
I got to know today that the girlfriend of her's was the one who incited her with doubts, that told her she wouldnt let her boyfriend be during all week away in the other town, doing whatever he's doing, bla bla kind of stuff and suspicious and suspicious, while other girl was telling her that i tell her all about my college town life, that she has nothing to be afraid of. Girls are so influentiable at this age..
This kinda thing tends to happen often with women... It often happened because her friends are jelous of her, so they will try and cause sh!t that will hopefully lead to a break-up.

What you can do to fix this:

Befriend all or at least MOST of her friends and get them to like you so that they wont try and talk sh!t about you to your gf, and they will rather have GOOD things to say about you.

You also need to make it clear to your gf that no matter WHAT her friends might think or say, she needs to trust YOU and ONLY you! And if she starts getting doughts or is unhappy with something, then she musnt keep it inside, and she should rather SPEAK to you about it. The 2 of you probably trust eachother ALOT, so she should believe YOU before she believes anyone else, and visa versa.


But overall it seems that your girl DOES care alot for you, and that the 2 of you SHOULD work out just fine;)

Goodluck and most importantly, have fun and enjoy life man!:cool:


Laterz...
 

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Befriend all or at least MOST of her friends and get them to like you
Yes its sooo important to disarm all potential c0ckblocks before they turn against you...

this is almost always overlooked... Now I've been wondering why my primary relationship has flourished and that is because all her friends love me!!!
 

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The thing is, the girl who told her that is BIG friend of me too, long time before me and my girl started dating. Also i'm friend of her other best friend. She has no other very close friends, only these 2 girls.

I dont think the girl tended to harm me, she's just naturally jealous. Her and her boyfriend are constantly breaking up, they have a lot of trust issues with things from the past, etc.. She's a good friend to me, but not a good influence at all for my girl.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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She is a "bad friend" and needs to be put in her place!

Originally posted by Trance
The thing is, the girl who told her that is BIG friend of me too, long time before me and my girl started dating. Also i'm friend of her other best friend. She has no other very close friends, only these 2 girls.

I dont think the girl tended to harm me, she's just naturally jealous. Her and her boyfriend are constantly breaking up, they have a lot of trust issues with things from the past, etc.. She's a good friend to me, but not a good influence at all for my girl.
Trance... If she would try influence your girl to break up with you and if she is putting doughts in your gf's head, then OBVIOUSLY she is NOT being a good friend to you... friends dont ACT upon their jelousy for eachoither, and if they do, then they are not "true" friends and should be avoided.

I think that you need to have a little chat with this so called "friend" of yours and tell her that she is going to mess up your relationship that you care alot for with her jelousy and stupidiity... and tell her that if she values your friendship, she will stop filling your gf's head up with bullsh!t like she is currently doing.

goodluck...;)


Laterz...
 

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This sounds like a never ending drama to be replayed over and over again. Trust/Not trust..Sex/No sex..Love/No Love. Which is fine at your age - you can't put an old head on young shoulders.

Here's one for the future though - when you meet a truly great woman who actually loves you, she will defend you to the hilt when her friends turn against you, and dump them all in a minute to be by your side. Assuming you're not being an idiot and treating her badly of course.
 

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Been with her today. She told me she wants to get back together soon, but she doesnt stand when i go clubing without her, she's crazy jealous over it.
 

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Originally posted by Trance
I just talked with a girl who is the best friend of my girlfriend. She told me that she told her all of the sex stuff, that she was feeling unconfortable about it, and wanted me to be more romantic with her. And that last 2 weeks she wasnt wanting to do it with me to test me if all i wanted was that.

I told this girl that i knew she was testing me, but couldnt believe she tought that, and that it was all in a so short space of time. Also i told the girl that i did a lot of stuff that she doesnt give value to! Like not going to my college town many times and staying more time in our town to be with her, abdicating of a lot of stuff on weekends to be able to go out with her every saturday, all that! And she told me she never tought about that, and its true, and that my girl wanted me to demonstrate her that i really like her.

NEVER SEEK COUNSEL IN A CHICK'S GIRLFRIENDS. NEVER. They will always contort the picture to make it look as if you're the shytheel even if they know thier GF is a real flake. She's totally insecure, and you'll always be stepping on eggshells with this chick as long as you hang around her. Like one of the other guys stated, let this chick create her own little soap opera with someone else.
 

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Been with her today. She was all over me, she didnt resist and confessed she loved me, and she only wanted to be more sure of my feelings about her. She told she is crazy about us going to spain, has a lot of plans, and surprises for me there.
 
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WAKE UP - your hor/girl is sexing another dude!!!! What is her rationale??? You are still perplexed on why she is acting this way??

When there is no explanation that means that she is currently deciding on which pimp she wishes to bestow her loyalty - if there is such a thing as loyalty to a hor!!!
 

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lol puertorican :) no she's not. If she even kissed other guy i'd send her to hell.

btw, u didnt read my last post before posting
 

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haha.... nice...

Originally posted by Trance
If she even kissed other guy i'd send her to hell.
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LOL!:p :D That just made my day man... hahaha... now THATS some funny sh!t;)

Once again though.. goodluck with your girl!:)


Laterz...
 
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Originally posted by Trance
lol puertorican :) no she's not. If she even kissed other guy i'd send her to hell.

btw, u didnt read my last post before posting
Yeah, I did! The question is why the doubt and drama and secondly why the sudden change of heart??? You never received an explanation did you? Don't ask her now - she won't tell you the truth!!
 

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The explanation was that the sex was becoming too hardcore, and everyday we did it, so she became with doubts if that was all that matters to me, and wanted some time off to see if i can be with her without that just because i love her and want her company.
She tells me she's crazy to do "peace" with me, but still wants a bit more time (like a week) cause she's not feeling ready cause when i do certain caresses to her she remembers the hardcore stuff.
 
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