"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Need advice! Avoiding break up with girlfriend!
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So she is gonna have sex with you again?
Otherwise... just try not forget the things that bothered her, and try not do them again in future... and another thing... You have come to a truce now, yes, but in order to avoid something like this happening again in the future, you need to tell her that from this point on, she needs to be 100% open with you on EVERYTHING, and if something is bothering her, then she must tell u right away, and NOT delay and wait untill it gets too much. You need to make it clear to her the IMPORTANCE of communication in a relationship.
Anyways... I'm happy to hear that things worked out well for the 2 of you and i hope that they will in the future too
Go well...Laterz...
"If we dont learn with the past, we are condemned to repeat the same mistakes in the future." - (dunno who said this on TV the other day, but its great)
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Of course shes gonna be pissed. Sheesh!
2 years have gone by since the original post..
And me and the girl are still together.
Since these 2 years:
I broke up with her 2 times
She broke up with me once
During her breakup period i had 3 partners and she had one. I was very jealous of the idea of her being with someone else (why are all men possessive?). I think it was the main thing why we got back together.
After the last breakup 5 months ago, i am again bored as hell of it, and seriously thinking of breaking up for good.
Maybe i still haven't cause she is very atractive, and now i am working since a year ago and dont have that much time to socialize with girls and have many options like i did during college.
Just wanted to share how the things evolved in a LTR, and that i honestly think now that it woulda been better if we didnt get back together when the first drama issues came up, cause we still have a lot of that **** nowdays, and i'd be better without it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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of course it does, it always does with hors!!!!So the girl who confessed she loved you got fvcked, sucked, and plucked another pimp - it was more than one guy kid - it is always more than one!! "But we weren't together" you say? So the hell what!!!! She opened her legs, as hors always do, and other dudes ram-sacked the hor!!!!
I thought you said in your previous post that if she even kissed a dude you would send her to hell??? Now you embrace her and talk lovy dovy shyt to heR AFTER SHE WAS HORING WITH OTHERS??? huh??? If you will send her to hell for kissing another dude then what is the punishment for her getting pummeled by another pimp???????
Don't be loyal or feel obligated to be with hors!!!!! You just don't want to go through all the work of getting another LTR Hor!!! I understand -- most guys think this way!! But I'll guarantee you one thing,, as I posted two years ago - she is getting plucked by other dudes -- guaranteed!!!
Say "No" to loving hos!!!
True true, altough i think you missed my main issue here.
I dont give her any atention at all, even when we go out she stays talking with friends while i am playing pool or poker, and then latter we do sex. Its kind of what's going on.
I dont have feelings anymore, and she realises that i dont feel the same for her, altough she likes to be with me.
So the point here is, based on my current situation (all week working, only friday and saturdays to go out at night), continuing in the kinda "sex buddy" situation while i do whatever i feel like, or no?
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If this is your mindset then you'll be OK!! Never take her seriously - never!!!!Trance said: