Need Advice - any help appreciated

[sknudheat]

Hello,

So today I grabbed a woman's number at the mall, 7-8/10 as she passed me my phone back I noticed that she was wearing a ring on her wedding finger, she looked fairly young maybe early 20's. She wasn't acting very into me, but was continued the conversation, making eye contact and smiling every once in a while. To be honest, im not looking for anything serious. How should I proceed? Should I wait a couple days then call/txt or should I just initiate texts now (I was on my lunch and only had about 5 minutes to grab her number and leave) Any help is appreciated! Thanks!

 

[sknudheat]

just texted her saying " hey just wanted to make sure you got home safe " no response lol....

 

[Smell The Glove]

My advise to you is to come up with better titles for your threads. My first instinct was to completely ignore this thread because the title didn't tell me anything.

Also, meet more women, avoid one-itis.

She'll probably ignore your first text because it's boring and kinda AFC.

 

[sknudheat]

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she ended up replying after about an hour. so what would you suggest as something that's not so AFC

 

[VladPatton]

That was a bad first text, dude. I suggest you use your texts very wisely and as few as possible. Save the yapping for the dates. Wait until Thursday afternoon and text her to go with you for a quick coffee on Friday afternoon.

Her response at this point will speak volumes as to her interest level.

 

[49au]

Text is beyond bad.

It's best to keep the initial interaction short and interesting, and if possible, find something to tease her about or a nickname for her. That gives you a solid lead-in for your text or phone call.

Doesn't sound like that's the case here.

And she may just be a bored married b!tch who wants more male orbiters because her husband doesn't satisfy her attention cravings. I wouldn't invest too much energy.

 

[sknudheat]

That was a bad first text, dude. I suggest you use your texts very wisely and as few as possible. Save the yapping for the dates. Wait until Thursday afternoon and text her to go with you for a quick coffee on Friday afternoon.

Her response at this point will speak volumes as to her interest level.

Im actually reading the dj bible, any suggestions of the type of things to say? instead of me sounded like a chump

 

[sknudheat]

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Text is beyond bad.

It's best to keep the initial interaction short and interesting, and if possible, find something to tease her about or a nickname for her. That gives you a solid lead-in for your text or phone call.

Doesn't sound like that's the case here.

And she may just be a bored married b!tch who wants more male orbiters because her husband doesn't satisfy her attention cravings. I wouldn't invest too much energy.

so what now? on to the next or should I just call her in a couple days to go get "coffee"

 

[SpazzAttackk]

Set something up with her, keep it short. No reply? fvck her. She flakes? fvck her.

You guys hit it off? FVCK her . That is of course, if you salvage whatever IL she has in you left after your first text.

 

[sknudheat]

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Set something up with her, keep it short. No reply? fvck her. She flakes? fvck her.

You guys hit it off? FVCK her . That is of course, if you salvage whatever IL she has in you left after your first text.

well noted, once again, can I get some advice about what to say and what not to say to avoid sounding like a jackass again

 

[PoZest]

what was her reply?

 

[sknudheat]

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what was her reply?

something along the lines of " yes, I got home safe, thank you for asking "

then, I just stopped texting her.

 

[SpazzAttackk]

something along the lines of " yes, I got home safe, thank you for asking "

then, I just stopped texting her.

I normally dont tell people what to say to a girl. Thats on the man and how they execute it. But like I previously said, ask her what shes doing this weekend and plan something.

Keep it short and sweet dont beat around the bush

Id wait a couple hours before you ask though. Maybe even a day.. but you already initiated something

 

[sknudheat]

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I normally dont tell people what to say to a girl. Thats on the man and how they execute it. But like I previously said, ask her what shes doing this weekend and plan something.

Keep it short and sweet dont beat around the bush

Id wait a couple hours before you ask though. Maybe even a day.. but you already initiated something

Sounds good, ill probably give her a call tomorrow and set something up for Friday afternoon, quick drink or what not. see where it goes. Any other suggestions or input is appreciated, Thank you

 

[sknudheat]

she ended up not picking up, deleted her number. fvck it.

 

[VladPatton]

49au has a good idea with the nickname thing. From now on keep it light and playful. When you get her number tell her you are putting her under Mall Girl. Now you have a tease and a nickname for her.

"Hey Mall Girl, I'm thinking about grabbing a drink/coffee/whatever...wanna meet me at XXXX ?"

Very simple. This also tests her playfulness and sense of humor. If she has none, BZZZZZ...thanks for playing...Next.

Stuff like this will make it seem less of a do or die situation.

 

[sknudheat]

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Thank you, I will def keep that in mind for the next one. Appreciate it!

49au has a good idea with the nickname thing. From now on keep it light and playful. When you get her number tell her you are putting her under Mall Girl. Now you have a tease and a nickname for her.

"Hey Mall Girl, I'm thinking about grabbing a drink/coffee/whatever...wanna meet me at XXXX ?"

Very simple. This also tests her playfulness and sense of humor. If she has none, BZZZZZ...thanks for playing...Next.

Stuff like this will make it seem less of a do or die situation.