"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yesterday was my last day of school. At the end of the exam, I walked up to the girl that rejected me at the start of our schooling, and said "It was nice knowing you, it's been a pleasure, as always." and smiled. She couldn't even look at me. She looked away and said "you too", before going off to her car.

I don't get it...was she just trying to tell me "don't contact me, ever again" by doing this, or am I just getting worked up over nothing?

Later on in the day, I sent her a message saying "thanks for all your help while we were at school. I wish you all the best"...same message I sent to 23 other people in the class! She was the only one who did not reply. I think it's very clear at this point, if it wasn't someone would need to draw a ****ing picture for me to get it!

Either way, it doesn't matter much, I just want to know what you guys think..

Short story: I asked her out 2 years ago, she said she wasn't looking for a BF and wanted to focus on school. A week later she started dating the next closest guy to us. I sent her messages professing my undying love for her (big mistake!) right before she started seeing this douche. She took 10 days to respond to me, and when she did all she said was that she saw us as friends, and nothing else. She was all over me when we first met...yet when I asked her about it she denied it and said she is nice to everyone...

Just a quick opinion is all I need now.
Thanks!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You can't be nice to girls. You can't tell them you like them like that. You ruined your chances at getting this girl forget about her. Read the DJ bible and prepare for the next one that comes along so you don't mess it up with her too.
 
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Yeah I know I messed up..that's not what I needed to hear.

She was fine with talking to me last week, it was only on the last day that she wanted absolutely nothing to do with me...not even say thanks or bye.

You are right about one thing though, I was far too nice to her!
 
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Why cant you guys just move on? What do you want from us? "Why didnt she say bye to me?" You wanna cry over it? Sheesh
 
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Just makes me feel as if I was used, which I was. It's all good..
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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seek&destroy said:
Just makes me feel as if I was used, which I was. It's all good..
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She wasn't interested in you and made that pretty clear.
I don't see how she was using you.
 
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seek&destroy said:
Yeah I know I messed up..that's not what I needed to hear.

She was fine with talking to me last week, it was only on the last day that she wanted absolutely nothing to do with me...not even say thanks or bye.

You are right about one thing though, I was far too nice to her!
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Even if you weren't too nice to her....maybe she just wasn't attracted to you.

You people always forget that! Despite C&F and being too nice and all the PUA stuff, the girl has to be attracted to you. Which this girl wasnt.

Sorry.
 
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