"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Need a quick opinion...not utterly important

seek&destroy

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Yesterday was my last day of school. At the end of the exam, I walked up to the girl that rejected me at the start of our schooling, and said "It was nice knowing you, it's been a pleasure, as always." and smiled. She couldn't even look at me. She looked away and said "you too", before going off to her car.

I don't get it...was she just trying to tell me "don't contact me, ever again" by doing this, or am I just getting worked up over nothing?

Later on in the day, I sent her a message saying "thanks for all your help while we were at school. I wish you all the best"...same message I sent to 23 other people in the class! She was the only one who did not reply. I think it's very clear at this point, if it wasn't someone would need to draw a ****ing picture for me to get it!

Either way, it doesn't matter much, I just want to know what you guys think..

Short story: I asked her out 2 years ago, she said she wasn't looking for a BF and wanted to focus on school. A week later she started dating the next closest guy to us. I sent her messages professing my undying love for her (big mistake!) right before she started seeing this douche. She took 10 days to respond to me, and when she did all she said was that she saw us as friends, and nothing else. She was all over me when we first met...yet when I asked her about it she denied it and said she is nice to everyone...

Just a quick opinion is all I need now.
Thanks!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SgtSplacker

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You can't be nice to girls. You can't tell them you like them like that. You ruined your chances at getting this girl forget about her. Read the DJ bible and prepare for the next one that comes along so you don't mess it up with her too.
 

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Yeah I know I messed up..that's not what I needed to hear.

She was fine with talking to me last week, it was only on the last day that she wanted absolutely nothing to do with me...not even say thanks or bye.

You are right about one thing though, I was far too nice to her!
 

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Why cant you guys just move on? What do you want from us? "Why didnt she say bye to me?" You wanna cry over it? Sheesh
 

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Just makes me feel as if I was used, which I was. It's all good..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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zekko

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seek&destroy said:
Just makes me feel as if I was used, which I was. It's all good..
She wasn't interested in you and made that pretty clear.
I don't see how she was using you.
 

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seek&destroy said:
Yeah I know I messed up..that's not what I needed to hear.

She was fine with talking to me last week, it was only on the last day that she wanted absolutely nothing to do with me...not even say thanks or bye.

You are right about one thing though, I was far too nice to her!

Even if you weren't too nice to her....maybe she just wasn't attracted to you.

You people always forget that! Despite C&F and being too nice and all the PUA stuff, the girl has to be attracted to you. Which this girl wasnt.

Sorry.
 
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