"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This girl , second time I called her and we're chatting. trying to build comfort

She says shes going to be in my town, so before I could ask if she could met up...

She says shes going to call me back but doens't. shes busy meeting a lot of her SOCIAL CIRCLE which I AM NOT PART OF


Obviously, this might be a blow off, because she is busy.


I really want to talk to her again.

SHOULD I text her now, saying " MY phone was off, i don't know if you called or now... can you chat now ?"

OR

SHOULD I WAIT UNTil tomorrow so she forget that she blew me off ?



PLEASe advise quick I only have 2 hours left before
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mackdaddy27 said:
This girl , second time I called her and we're chatting. trying to build comfort

She says shes going to be in my town, so before I could ask if she could met up...

She says shes going to call me back but doens't. shes busy meeting a lot of her SOCIAL CIRCLE which I AM NOT PART OF


Obviously, this might be a blow off, because she is busy.


I really want to talk to her again.

SHOULD I text her now, saying " MY phone was off, i don't know if you called or now... can you chat now ?"

OR

SHOULD I WAIT UNTil tomorrow so she forget that she blew me off ?



PLEASe advise quick I only have 2 hours left before

Call her if you have something specific in mind to do with her. Don't call her to say "Can I hang out with you when you're in town?"
 

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Call her if you have something specific in mind to do with her. Don't call her to say "Can I hang out with you when you're in town?"
Correct.
Do not send her that txt message.

And do not call if you adont have something specific as a backup to go to.

You: "Hey, what are you up to? I was going to go to XYZ for a little while."
Shut up , see what she says.

She may say :" Come and join us."
or not.
be prepared for her answer.


Whatever it is. Go out anyway. Even if its to the bookstore or whatever.


Dont become desperate or needy, and dont get angry at her.


Call her, dont txther this time.
 

mackdaddy27

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excellent advice.

but its too late. I texted her.

Only because I didn't want to be forceful and make her run away so i always have a chance to call her tomorrow ..

but at the same time, i was really made sure not sound desperate in my txt message.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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