"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Need a non Cliche'd gym opener

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Damn we are both sweaty. Why don't you come over to my place and we can shower together". Lol.
don't laugh....there is a mountain bike place that put in a coffee/taproom in their shop, and they have a shower in one of the bathrooms. $8.00 gets you a PBR and a shower. I've shared a shower with a fellow female patron before...
 

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Chick at my gym has been burning holes in my head , she's kind of cute but i've never been into approaching chicks in the gym

its like a place of business for me ….go there > get **** done > leave

anyway i feel i should probably say something now and ask her out because its been going on a while

got no problem with the convo its just cold opening a random chick in the gym gives me the shivers being thought of as "that guy "

anyone cold approached any chicks in the gym ? what did you open with ? need some inspo
You're over thinking this too much. Just walk up and say "hey I'm Bingo-Player, what's your name?" Then just take it from there. Your opener isn't even important. What you say and do after your opener is what is important.
 

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You're over thinking this too much. Just walk up and say "hey I'm Bingo-Player, what's your name?" Then just take it from there. Your opener isn't even important. What you say and do after your opener is what is important.
This is what we've been saying the entire time, people who need pick up lines have approach anxiety, it's not hard to just have a conversation, when you don't approach for weeks but then come up with this pick up line, that's cool, but then you gotta follow up after the pick up line and approach anxiety is going to set in like mad.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This is what we've been saying the entire time, people who need pick up lines have approach anxiety, it's not hard to just have a conversation, when you don't approach for weeks but then come up with this pick up line, that's cool, but then you gotta follow up after the pick up line and approach anxiety is going to set in like mad.
And somehow, we've been getting push back on this, which clearly says to me these are people who don't regularly speak to women but are trying to give advice
 

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don't laugh....there is a mountain bike place that put in a coffee/taproom in their shop, and they have a shower in one of the bathrooms. $8.00 gets you a PBR and a shower. I've shared a shower with a fellow female patron before...
Thats a good deal
 

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This is what we've been saying the entire time, people who need pick up lines have approach anxiety, it's not hard to just have a conversation, when you don't approach for weeks but then come up with this pick up line, that's cool, but then you gotta follow up after the pick up line and approach anxiety is going to set in like mad.
What a lot of guys don't understand is that you can have the best opener but if you can't hold a conversation then you're screwed.

You could have the most stupid opener in the world but as long as you are able to hold a conversation and hook her, then the opener won't matter. She won't even remember the opener when you're done talking to her.
And somehow, we've been getting push back on this, which clearly says to me these are people who don't regularly speak to women but are trying to give advice
There are a lot of fakes on here that pretend they know stuff about game but they don't have much real life experience with it. They think they are experts from reading material and watching YouTube videos. The quality of posters has really declined since I joined in 2015.
 

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Chick at my gym has been burning holes in my head , she's kind of cute but i've never been into approaching chicks in the gym

its like a place of business for me ….go there > get **** done > leave

anyway i feel i should probably say something now and ask her out because its been going on a while

got no problem with the convo its just cold opening a random chick in the gym gives me the shivers being thought of as "that guy "

anyone cold approached any chicks in the gym ? what did you open with ? need some inspo
gym is a sacred ground for me so i rarely approach. However one approach that went successful for me was "your one of the few girls i see here who seem to know what they are doing". She said okay thanks and i walked away. Saw her again and just chattted her up and i took the lead in the convo so she doesnt feel awkward. I said she seemed cool and if i can get her number maybe we can train some time. I kept seeing her at the gym and talked made her laugh and finally she asked for a spot and thats when i knew i was in.

The gym is a place where you see the same people over and over again so dont rush it and keep it chill.
 

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"Nanu Nanu!!" followed by a short jig has always worked for me.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Only girl I would never approach to ask out would be a work colleague.
Can’t think of anything worse than dating a girl from work, breaking up with her and having to hang out with her at work for 8 hours a days
 

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Approach and say...

"I'll make you a deal. If I can bench press more than you, you have to give me a bl0wj0b."
 
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As a few others have said, play the long game and build some rapport. Be social with everyone and get a good physique.

The more rapport you build with her the more comfortable she will be with you, once you see some clear signals i would suggest you escalate and flirt a bit to test the waters.
 
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