"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need a little phone call advice

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Beffing

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so I dont talk on the phone that much to anybody, I just dont like to normally; so I think I need some feedback. I met this girl a couple nights ago at a bar, everything went textbook and I got her phone number and said I would call her so we could meet up for a drink. So tonight I am planning on going out for a little bit with a couple buddies, and since its thursday night on a college campus, Im sure that her and her girlfriends will be making their rounds. Now based on my sparse knowledge of phone etiquette, I was planning on calling her this evening around 10 (after I get out of work) and telling her where my friends and I are headed and if her and her friends are going the same way and would like to meet up. I feel that calling her and stating my prior plans first and requesting her and her friends company is better than "asking" her what shes doing and making it seem like shes my entire focus of the night. What do you think?

--Beffing
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ezily

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yeah I would go for it in the manner you described. It should make her think that you're not planning your night around her and she is just a part of it. Also, be sure to introduce yourself because she may not remember who you are.
 
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