"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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need a little help

DJ in Progress

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alright, so i finally manned up and asked a girl for her number after some good convo and she seemed really interested in me. she gave me her number and that was that. then i ****ed up, i called her the next night, she didn't pick up so i left a message saying that i had fun hanging with her and was going away for the weekend but would liek to hang with her the next week and told her that i would call her when i would be arround, left my number and then heard nothing. just wondering how bad i screwed up and since she didn't even call back should i bother to call againn? any and all advice is welcomed
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Don't call. You don't want to me Mikey from Swingers. Move on, if she calls back that's great. If not, well who cares, you already moved on.
 
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Wyldfire said:
You should just go to a different site. You won't get help here. You will only be encouraged to be angry and bitter and wallow in self-pity.
Stop with the negativity!

Are you sure you called the right number? Maybe the message was deleted by accident or someone else received it and did not give it to her.

Call a week later, no sooner, to be sure.
 

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i'll give her one more call, it will have been a week, and if i get the voicemail again, no message this time, it will just be NEXT!
 
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