"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ds1ur1f

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I met this girl at a bar, we talked for a bit and we had a drink together. As the Bar closed we all went outside, i got her number. Her and her friend invited me to go to a club, but i had no shoes to wear. So i ended the night there. Later that week she texts me asking me what i was up to, i told her i had no plans and she replied saying that her friends are going to a bar. There was really no actual invite, so i ended up just staying home. We went out a couple days later to a club, everything was G. Only problem is when i talk to her in person and on the phone it seems like shes not interested, but when she texts me she seems interested. Shes about 2 1/2 years older then me. What do you guys think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jay Jay

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I think wondering if a girl likes you or not is a waste of time and energy.

Either decide she likes you and act accordingly

or

Decide to MAKE her like you. How do you do this? That's what this site is for.

JJ
 

bigjohnson

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ds1ur1f said:
...., i told her i had no plans and she replied saying ....
Rule #17 - No matter what, you always had plans. You might be able to cancel if the offer is good, or maybe counter-offer.

Other than that you did OK I guess. Wait for the advice of the masters in 5, 4, 3, 2, ...
 
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