"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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texmex23

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Background: Asked this girl to go to the movies this saturday ( this happened last saturday) well she said she didn't know and then i told her to give me her number so i could call her to see if she could go. So she gave me the number. So me and my friend were there with her and her friend. I was flirtin with her and talkin to her friend and they said that we should go to a movie that they were goin to see like in thirty minutes, but i couldn't stay so i told her that i couldn't.

Fast forward to today: I called her and she said that she was sry that she couldn't go cuase she had to go to a b-day party. So i was like ok thats kool...we said bye and hung up.

So what i wanted to know is when should i call her back to see if she can do anything next weekend. And what to say so i wont sound needy or AFC. (i know i shoulda done this this time i called her but i guess i had a brain fart).

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Master Disaster

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If you want her to think your needy call her right now.
If you want her to think your a DJ call her right now.
It really doesn't matter when you call her its more about how you present yourself. Start a conversation a good one then just offer her something like. I was going to the movies with some friends you want to come? Then if you don't want to go with your friends just pick her up and say your friends couldn't make it thats the best way for a new guy to get into the field low risk high reward.
 

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kool, now i got the day to call her so what do i say...something like "hey, last time i called you i completely forgot to ask if your free next weekend since your o so busy last weekend"...or if yall have any ideas
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I wouldn't even mention last week. Just focus on the future ^^. (of course..talk to her for a few minutes..)
 

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say something like. "I know how badly you want to see me, so I'll give you saturday"
 

Mr. Debonaire

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now a couple more basics

if she says she has plans, since you are "giving" her that day, she damn well better spend it with you! if she says no, don't hang out with her for a while
 

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I would be pesimistic right now because if she wanted to meet up with you she would have probably told you a better time when she siad she was busy, but you can still try, theres no harm in it.
 
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I wouldnt call her thursday. Monday is perfect time for you to call.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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