"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Need a little college-campus help (getting annoying with this hb9.5)

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This isn't a rant or some ****, so hear me out please.

Basically put, college campus. There's the extremely beautiful, I'd say hb9 regular, and 9.5 on days she comes a little more 'spiffier' (i.e. hair done exceptionally nice, etc).

Thing is, everytime we see each other, we always make eye contact and she definitely shows interest, but it just ends at that. Eye contact is all that happens. At other times, we walk by each other, not breaking eye contact until we just walk by shoulder to shoulder and lose sight of each other.

See, now in theory, she is definitely interested (from the way she looks at me to the way she makes eye contact with me), but for some damned reason I can't stop by and start a conversation with her (I start conversations with girls with little to no trouble).

But this situation here is becoming annoying.

So what do I do?

If we're walking in the opposite directions, should I stop her and say "hey! you're going in the wrong direction. You're supposed to walk with ME to class that way", *smirk* ....basically asking her to walk me to class and converse with her on the way (doesn't matter if I have class or not, in no class case, I'll just take her to the coffee area if she is free of course).

Or do I wait and find her sitting in the coffee zone of the college again (like I did once), and go sit by her, starting a conversation?

Advice me and/or give new suggestions.
This one's a little of a hard scenerio for me, I kind of lose my confidence when I see her. (Nothing major, but enough that I haven't talked to her in the 30ish times I've seen her).

Fire away guys!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Allurre

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You think too much, and you're scared of approaching.

Don't wait for that 'right opportunity' to get at her.

Create the opportunity. She's already interested, just go in for the kill.

Ask her what's up... how her day is, and take it from there. Stop foreseeing any consequences; see only success.
 
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