"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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need a little advice on amping my sexuality a little

BongDuy

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so i've been talking to a few girls, and they've introduced me to their friends. this has led me to meet a bunch of new ppl in college.
this isnt a problem at all, and i can talk to the girls no problem, i make them laugh, i try to dig a little deeper to build some deep rapport and what not. kino is there, all playful, nothing sexual. ( pushing, tickling, no hand holding or cuddling )

I was wondering how i could project a more sexual vibe. would this mean that i would have to be more direct? ( saying " you're looking really cute right now") a little bit of advice please
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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Sexuality is something that happens when you're relaxed and comfortable in your own skin. It's a quiet confidence that let's you up the "flirt level" with women and they feel it in a positive way, not a creepy way.

Everyone is different so it's really hard to say what would work for you.

I give off a cool, masculine and strong sort of vibe when I'm out in public... But what has really worked for me is that I flip it over and show a softer, sweeter, in touch and more in tune side of me when I'm alone with the girl. Not wussy/chumpish, but just a whole other dimension that shows her I'm a man of great depth. Strong and bold but still affectionate and warm.

Sexuality comes from within, and I strongly believe that you have to find out what works for you, on your own.
 

john_trenor

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I see your cunccern, but don’t worry you are on the right track. It seems like you doing well with building pleasant vibes. Now the only thing left is to spark attraction.

The number one mistake that guys make when they to talk to women is being too nice. Women generally love when men are nice to them, can coming off as nice actually become boring. You bet.

The truth is that women need to be engaged by a little of both when it comes to an interesting conversation. Men often agree or laugh at any thing that comes remotely close to making sense, but that is not engaging. Women quickly lose interest if they are not opposed by your point of view. By sharing your outlook they can be drawn to you instead of simply being reassured by your complements.

By this I don’t mean you have to be a jerk to be attractive. I’m simply saying that women need to be interested amongst other things in order to feel attraction. Good luck and stay well.:up:
 
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