"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hi guys i have been away from the pick up scene for quite a long time now because i've been so busy at work but i have to admit, i am 30 years old and i haven't been on a date in years. I know i don't even make much the effort to go out and do some approaches because i think most of the **** that mystery other pua's teach is bull**** and a complete scam. I have been in this community a long time now and i know that any success i ever had with girls was when i wasn't doing what most so-called pua were doing but was just been me. I had my life in order, good paying job, dressed well but since i have gotten a little older now i feel the need to get my dating life handled.

I want to try online dating but i'm finding it difficult to get them interested in me. i see alot of profiles online with girls but i cannot think of what to say to them so that they might want to relply. How can i improve my online dating profile because nobody ever sends me a message. Really all i want a cool sexy girl to hang out with and of course a relationship. I'm sure thats what most of us here want but i'm sure there are lots of guys here who can give me some solid advice.

Hope you can help.

Thanks
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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did you write this in your profile?

Really all i want a cool sexy girl to hang out with and of course a relationship
 

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woodsboro said:
did you write this in your profile?

Really all i want a cool sexy girl to hang out with and of course a relationship
No i did not, might not be a wise thing to say. I don't want to sound submissive. Any advice on online dating and confidence building.
 

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dark angel said:
No i did not, might not be a wise thing to say. I don't want to sound submissive. Any advice on online dating and confidence building.
wrong my friend...you seem to be scared of asking for what you want
and I haven't even read your profile

this is a powerfull line (slightly edited)
hopefully you'll understand why

Really all I want is to meet a cool sexy girl to hang out with and if things work out... a relationship

your insecurities will SHINE in your words.....re read your profile
and see how a girl might interpret every word

some quick tips to start

only message girls you are interested in "intellectually"
don't let what she writes on her profile damage your ego
if she's not interested..big deal move on

to get her attention

read her profile
read her profile
and
read her profile
 

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dark angel said:
Hi guys i have been away from the pick up scene for quite a long time now because i've been so busy at work but i have to admit, i am 30 years old and i haven't been on a date in years. I know i don't even make much the effort to go out and do some approaches because i think most of the **** that mystery other pua's teach is bull**** and a complete scam. I have been in this community a long time now and i know that any success i ever had with girls was when i wasn't doing what most so-called pua were doing but was just been me. I had my life in order, good paying job, dressed well but since i have gotten a little older now i feel the need to get my dating life handled.

I want to try online dating but i'm finding it difficult to get them interested in me. i see alot of profiles online with girls but i cannot think of what to say to them so that they might want to relply. How can i improve my online dating profile because nobody ever sends me a message. Really all i want a cool sexy girl to hang out with and of course a relationship. I'm sure thats what most of us here want but i'm sure there are lots of guys here who can give me some solid advice.

Hope you can help.

Thanks

You come on to a website saying that people who are the trailblazers and founders of the seduction community are full of ****, then you turn around looking for advice looking how to score chicks? Why don't you do the bull**** that you were doing before concerning that Mystery'em are full of sh*t?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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all the guy is saying is he's not interested in magic pills and circus routines
just genuine advice...its what I've given him
no need to get defensive
 

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dark angel said:
I know i don't even make much the effort to go out and do some approaches because i think most of the **** that mystery other pua's teach is bull**** and a complete scam
The purpose of their material and courses is to make money, not to help guys out.

i'm sure there are lots of guys here who can give me some solid advice.
You want the Mature Man forum. Make sure you put the age in your profile otherwise they move your threads.
 

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woodsboro said:
all the guy is saying is he's not interested in magic pills and circus routines
just genuine advice...its what I've given him
no need to get defensive
Exactly, i have tried all the routines,gimmicks for months and have had very little success with it, not saying it doesn't work for some, i'm sure it does. It is after all mystery's method because it is congruent with him and is him thats why it gets him success with women. I have been away from the dating scene for a while now and i'm sure there are lots of guys like woosboro who can give some solid dating advice that i can use.

Here is what i currently have in the "About Me" section...

Ok just here to try something new. tired of going to bars to meet girls. heard dating sites are the best places in the world to meet women...ha ha. I prefer not to share anything about myself, if you want to know anything just ask.
Let me know what if you think this sounds good and how i think i can improve it.

Cheers
 

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er...its not good enough..sorry
I know some girls say...oooh message me if you wanna know more
its lame....really lame
don't be lame
don't be afraid to put yourself out there
there is a lot of good looking guys out there and you've gotta get a head of those dudes..the way you do that
is put yourself out there
talk about you (dreams, passions) thats what girls find interesting
and talk about what you want...the person you'd like to meet

one thing...stay away from any negative words...like
hey...dont wanna meet some crazy ass fat bi*ch

or

tired of going to bars :)
you could rephrase it so it sounds more interesting Im sure
 

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What I think when I hear "I'm tired of going to bars" is "I've given up and I'm going to try this online thing as a last ditch effort"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Last_straw said:
What I think when I hear "I'm tired of going to bars" is "I've given up and I'm going to try this online thing as a last ditch effort"
indeed
 

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dark angel said:
Let me know what if you think this sounds good and how i think i can improve it.
That really doesn't say much. How about something generic like:

I'm a big fan of running, I like to test myself and compete in races once in awhile.
I'm not a big drinker but when I do I like to hang out with my friends and make new ones, etc... stuff like that.
 

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Last_straw said:
What I think when I hear "I'm tired of going to bars" is "I've given up and I'm going to try this online thing as a last ditch effort"
I've always found the statement "Tired of going to bars" extremely fascinating, because it never means the same for men than it means for women.

For men, it means exactly what you said, but for women, it usually means "I'm tired of one night stands and whoring it up, I'm very quickly realizing that I am approaching my expiration date and I'm ready to date a nice guy that won't mind that I ran up my sexual odometer in the last 10 years."
 
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You can meet women anywhere and everywhere, it doesn't just have to be in a bar unless you are looking for a one night stand then bars and clubs are the way to go.
 

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perseverance said:
You can meet women anywhere and everywhere, it doesn't just have to be in a bar unless you are looking for a one night stand then bars and clubs are the way to go.
who told you that women who go to bars and clubs are looking for a one night stand?
women will take what you offer them.... so if you only offer a one night stand then that's what you'll get

to the guy who said stick something generic on there
I disagree .... cos then you'll BE generic..........?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Well either I'm going to the wrong clubs or the women around my parts are total slvts, but the bars and clubs I frequented up until earlier this year were full of men and women looking to score. Sure, you'll meet a few high calibre women at bars and clubs, but they are scarce.
 

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woodsboro said:
I disagree .... cos then you'll BE generic..........?
This is like an advertisement. And the product is YOU. If you don't say anything about the product, how are you supposed to get customers?

Better something generic for now then nothing at all.
 

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you actually posted something that's not generic
just picking up in the word you used...the guy is afraid to be himself..... telling him to be generic isn't going to help him.... I agree with your other points
 

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also Dark angel
for some reason.... you didn't have a problem
spilling your guts in your first post
so...something changes inside your head, when it comes to writing your profile 
maybe.....it's because you're Trying to be impressive or something?
if you are..... then you're approaching this the wrong way.... you need to start being comfortable and proud of you're achievements and goals in life
girls don't fall for bs easily as you know......
so you need to start being honest with yourself
and put You into words it will take time
so set aside a day this week to tackle it
in the meantime start thinking
you're welcome to pm (private message) me
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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