Ok, recently i'v been dumped again and i'm just now realizing that its cuz i'm too nice. I neva been in a fight and dont plan on bein in one. I avoid conflict. When i talk to gurls, i just tell them nice stuff whic i thought u was suppused to do. What do u all think i should do to get more confidence and tuff'n up so gurls wont dump me becuz i'm too nice??
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Nedd some advice!! Please help!
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
From my personal opinion, there's nothing wrong with being nice, although you really don't want to appear to be a pushover. I'm nice, caring, and respectful to women, but remember, you have to respect yourself too. Don't let girls control your life. On the other hand, you don't want to appear like a jerk; Be classy, there's a BIG difference 
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Nothing wrong with being nice...just have a back bone
You have not dumped because you are too nice, btw not getting itno fights does not really make you nice. I can be nice and i do get into fights, but i can handle myself.
You do not need to toughen up to keep girls, you need to not be such a *****, do not be a ***** to get *****. The girls i know hate snivelling boys/ or overcloying ones as they say they almost guilt them into things and they dont liek that.
You do not need to toughen up to keep girls, you need to not be such a *****, do not be a ***** to get *****. The girls i know hate snivelling boys/ or overcloying ones as they say they almost guilt them into things and they dont liek that.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Dont take their shyt, kisses their ass or let them walk over you. One of my friends is like this and his girl cheated on him but he wanted to work things out...dont be like him or i will come find you and smack you.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.