Ok, recently i'v been dumped again and i'm just now realizing that its cuz i'm too nice. I neva been in a fight and dont plan on bein in one. I avoid conflict. When i talk to gurls, i just tell them nice stuff whic i thought u was suppused to do. What do u all think i should do to get more confidence and tuff'n up so gurls wont dump me becuz i'm too nice??
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nedd some advice!! Please help!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
From my personal opinion, there's nothing wrong with being nice, although you really don't want to appear to be a pushover. I'm nice, caring, and respectful to women, but remember, you have to respect yourself too. Don't let girls control your life. On the other hand, you don't want to appear like a jerk; Be classy, there's a BIG difference 
InsidiousNstinct
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Nothing wrong with being nice...just have a back bone
You have not dumped because you are too nice, btw not getting itno fights does not really make you nice. I can be nice and i do get into fights, but i can handle myself.
You do not need to toughen up to keep girls, you need to not be such a *****, do not be a ***** to get *****. The girls i know hate snivelling boys/ or overcloying ones as they say they almost guilt them into things and they dont liek that.
You do not need to toughen up to keep girls, you need to not be such a *****, do not be a ***** to get *****. The girls i know hate snivelling boys/ or overcloying ones as they say they almost guilt them into things and they dont liek that.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Dont take their shyt, kisses their ass or let them walk over you. One of my friends is like this and his girl cheated on him but he wanted to work things out...dont be like him or i will come find you and smack you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.