Near misses

[TheCWord]

Was at a pub tonight and there was this stunning girl - I was damn sure I was going to pick her up. I was having a good night, feeling confident, and could tell by the way she was mingling that she was single - it was going to be the easiest thing in the world, or so I thought.

I was in a deep conversation with one of my bosses from work and she sat right next to me. Clearly bored, she was checking her phone. Right freaking next to me. But I couldn't get out of this convo with my boss - it went on for like ten minutes, and she sat next to me by herself the entire time. The SECOND my convo with the boss ends, I turn to her and she had just stood up and walked away.

A couple minutes later I decide to cross the room and go talk to her, but just as I was two steps away I got intercepted by another friend who wanted to do the chit chat. I was able to escape that quickly, but not quick enough to get to the girl before she sat down with another guy and there she stayed for the next twenty minutes.

I couldn't stay there all night and I was done talking to the people I was going to talk to that night. I felt like I was just lingering around, waiting to talk to her. I don't like feeling that way - it took me from feeling confident to feeling AFC.

Would you guys have done as I did - and just said ah well and moved on with your life? Or something different?

 

[Neon Owl]

Couldn't you have tried bringing her into the conversation with your boss when she was sitting next to you? Maybe asked her opinion on the subject you were discussing?

 

[TheCWord]

Not really, we were talking about some heavy work stuff - bringing in a random stranger wouldn't have been very appropriate.

 

[Purefilth]

Couldn't you have tried bringing her into the conversation with your boss when she was sitting next to you? Maybe asked her opinion on the subject you were discussing?

if you're drinking in the pub out of work - he is not the boss.
so ........ that in mind.......

 

[TheCWord]

It's not like I was talking to Michael Scott... I work in show business and networking outside of work is pretty key. In this particular instance, we were talking about ideas for a future project. He and I don't get to talk often enough that it would have been wise to say, "Know what, let's talk about this more later." I was aware of the choice I had at the time - possibility of picking up a hot girl vs possibility of making some good things happen in my career. I went with career and in that particular moment I'm happy with my priorities.

 

[VladPatton]

Sometimes it just doesn't happen, man. No one to blame but the universe.