NC Success Stories?

[Hate the game..]

So I've started on NC and am almost at the 2 week mark. I'm happy to say that the physical pain of my stomach being in a knot over this girl has pretty much gone away. My question is what are some of your success stories with NC (the girl coming back to you)? How do you act if you happen to see the girl around? i.e walking by on the street or at a party. And how do you proceed if the girl reestablishes contact?

 

[Renegade357]

Hah, you're just having a "good" day. If you are on this forum writing about NC and looking for hope you'll probably be feeling that sick feeling in your stomach again soon.

Want some good advice? Forget her. Move on to the next one.

 

[Scars]

A true NC "success" story would be pretty boring. Because true success would just be silence, forever. If you're doing NC to get a girl to come back to you, then you are setting yourself up for disaster. Sure, NC works, and if you ignore them long enough, they WILL come back to you, but it's only temporary. Use NC to get your head straight, get over a break-up, and keep your ex from finding out about all the hunnies you're spinning now.

-Scars

 

[Trump]

So I've started on NC and am almost at the 2 week mark. I'm happy to say that the physical pain of my stomach being in a knot over this girl has pretty much gone away. My question is what are some of your success stories with NC (the girl coming back to you)?

As Scars said, NC doesn't work that way and you have to lower the ego.

When I went NC back in the day. I used to think girls were so in love with me but they just couldn't muster the courage to write me an email to tell how much the miss me and love me. Little did I know while I thought they were missing me the other guy was plowing them.

NC means you won't allow her to be responsible for you feeling good about yourself, not as way to make her realize what she is missing. She knows what she is missing and may or may not care.

 

[Hate the game..]

To clarify I didn't mean success= her coming back to you. But out of curiosity how often does that happen to you all? I swear I'm already seeing 3 other girls I'm just curious.

 

[Renegade357]

But out of curiosity how often does that happen to you all?

About 60%.

It depends on how much of a connection you had with them. Also depends on how much of a begging loser/a$$ you made of yourself during the break. If you played it cool the whole way and remained "intact" your odds go up.

The deeper your connection the higher chance you have of them coming around again. The 30% that didn't come back never dug me to begin with or found someone new to drain the life out of. The ones who did come back usually either struck out with the guy they wanted after me or just needed validation.

I've never had a girl genuinely come back wanting to work things out.

 

[dap]

My question is what are some of your success stories with NC (the girl coming back to you)?

Success in NC is defined as the time when you quit wondering if she will come back to you.

Basically, there are two kinds of NC and they should never be confused:

1. NC done early in a relationship to briefly show her that you are willing to walk away/not needy. This could happen if she flakes on the first date, is acting cold, etc. The goal here is to force her to show whether she's interested. If she's not, you move on.
2. NC done when things go south. This is done not to win the girl back, but to get over the girl and move on with your life. It is also not done to make the girl feel bad, etc. It is done for you so that you can re-prioritize your life and get your **** together. Sometime (rarely) a girl will come back to you when you do this. Don't count on it and start seeing other girls, focus on yourself and your friends, and get on with your life.

EDIT: I should also mention that I went NC about a month ago w/ a girl things weren't working out with. It feels great (really) walking away with my pride intact (no begging for second chances, no text novels, etc, etc). In this time I've put on some muscle at the gym, hung out with my buds, and am meeting new people. Success.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

As others have already mentioned, the point of NC is to move on with your life and NOT to "get the girl back".

If you're doing NC in the hopes of getting a girl back, you're starting with a losing strategy from the beginning.

 

[JohnChops]

As others have already mentioned, the point of NC is to move on with your life and NOT to "get the girl back".

If you're doing NC in the hopes of getting a girl back, you're starting with a losing strategy from the beginning.

That is an eye opener for a lot of people.

 

[perseverance]

It's been around a year and it's going great, she has a boyfriend and has moved on and I have moved on, everyone is a winner here. I hope I never have to bump into her, if I do, I'll just carry on as usual, ignoring her as I go about my everyday life.