gladiator4439
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Recently (In the spring of 2021) I started dating, and sleeping with, two different women concurrently. After about a month of switching back and forth I started to feel myself leaning towards one woman over the other, we’ll call her KC. I felt more of a connection to KC and it was hurting my relationship and attraction for the other woman, we’ll call her BB. Why is this? I started to lean more towards KC because, to me, she was just a sweetheart of a girl, she aligned with me very well, and there was nothing about her that kind of grinded against me. The other woman, BB was a sweethearted individual as well, but not as much, and there were some things about BB that kind of grinded against me. BB didn’t necessarily do things that stood out specifically as red flags or bad behavior, but I just wasn’t as into her for some reason. At the same time that I started to feel this listing effect away from BB, I was receiving a tremendous amount of social pressure to not be going out with, and sleeping with, two women at once. This is to be expected.
Even when both women know and understand the parameters of your dating approach, society is still supposed to vilify you as a heartbreaker. In the gynocentric and feminine correct society that we live in, you’re not supposed to do this. Why? Because it’s not the way that a woman would do things. Women have a hard time sleeping with more than one man at a time. Some women can, but she’s really only going to give her best effort in bed to the man she likes the most, and if she is sleeping with another man, that man is getting dead bedroom starfish sex with no real enthusiasm behind it, which is the worst if you’ve ever been on the receiving end of it. I have experience with this myself and it sucks. So, given that knowledge, society tries to pigeon hole men into relationships with one woman at a time, strictly because this is the way women think. Women think that if they can’t give their heart, and in turn enthusiastic sex, to more than one man at a time, then men must be incapable of this as well. This is because women are innately solipsistic creatures unable to put themselves in the shoes of a man, emotionally or otherwise. When a woman knows or suspects her man of sleeping with another woman she immediately starts to think that that man no longer loves and cares for her, and that hurts her because she knows that if the roles were reversed and she cheated, she would no longer love her man. Do not stick with a woman that has cheated on you. If she cheats it means that she is done with you. Even if you are still getting sex, however unenthusiastic it may be, her heart belongs to another man and your relationship with her will deteriorate rapidly. This is how we think now as a society, like women. If a man is sleeping with more than one woman than that is wrong and he is cheating on one or the other, or both.
Due to this societally conditioned consciousness, several people began to take notice that I was with more than one woman and started sticking their noses into affairs that were none of their concern. What I do in my private life, in the bedroom with women, is none of anyone’s concern. However, when people see men living out their own mating strategy instead of placating the mating strategy of a woman, they get angry and feel the need to “stand up to that player”. I actually had an ex of mine, a woman I am still friendly with after the breakup due to the fact that we go and dance at the same bar, confront me about the issue. This particular ex and I were both into the modeling scene and I was talking with her about doing a collab with a photographer that I know and she said to me, “I’m not very happy with you right now.” To which I responded, “Oh yea? What’s up?” I knew I had done nothing wrong so I was confused. She said she was unhappy about me dating KC and BB at the same time. She knew both KC and BB and felt the need to protect them or something I guess. When I told her that both KC and BB understood the situation and how I was dating, she seemed to get annoyed and didn’t even respond. I have a feeling there was a mix of embarrassment and annoyance on her part at the fact that I could pull this off, and that the women were okay with it.
I think the combination of these two factors, the social pressure and my increased attraction for KC, have me feeling ready to break away from BB. I am moving far away from the area pretty soon and I want to end things with these women on a good note. This is my first experience dating more than one woman at once and I am having trouble with how I should go about breaking the ties. I move in about three weeks. In between now and then I have four weekends. The last weekend that I am here, KC and BB will be in the bar that I dance in, and I am not sure how to handle it. It being my last weekend here, I want to give most of my time to KC, but don’t want BB to feel ignored and neglected. I am connected to both women and want the best for them and don’t want to hurt either one. I am wondering if I should talk to BB about what’s going on or if I should just demonstrate and not explicate and hope she gets the picture over the course of three weeks. This also comes with the uncomfortable situation over the course of the last weekend that BB will see me in the bar with KC, and if I’m still visibly with KC, I really risk hurting BB’s feelings and making myself look like an *******. It’s strange, as long as I am giving both women what seems like equal amounts of attention and intimacy, they are okay. As soon as I start doing things differently in a public setting though, things get dicey. They realize the shift in my actions and begin to wonder what’s wrong, and they become upset by the fact that I’m not giving them attention. Girls like to receive attention in public. It’s a way of them claiming you in front of other girls. If you are inconsistent with your PDA though, they realize that you don’t want to look like you have been claimed, and that sets off a trigger in their minds. I think my first mistake was giving these girls any attention (PDA) in public at all. I think that I should have been aloof in public with them. Either that or I should have just kept them in different areas. I’m new to game and fairly domain dependent and I think the fact that I met these girls in the same bar is what put me in this corner in the first place. If anyone has any advice about how to go about navigating this situation please let me know.
Even when both women know and understand the parameters of your dating approach, society is still supposed to vilify you as a heartbreaker. In the gynocentric and feminine correct society that we live in, you’re not supposed to do this. Why? Because it’s not the way that a woman would do things. Women have a hard time sleeping with more than one man at a time. Some women can, but she’s really only going to give her best effort in bed to the man she likes the most, and if she is sleeping with another man, that man is getting dead bedroom starfish sex with no real enthusiasm behind it, which is the worst if you’ve ever been on the receiving end of it. I have experience with this myself and it sucks. So, given that knowledge, society tries to pigeon hole men into relationships with one woman at a time, strictly because this is the way women think. Women think that if they can’t give their heart, and in turn enthusiastic sex, to more than one man at a time, then men must be incapable of this as well. This is because women are innately solipsistic creatures unable to put themselves in the shoes of a man, emotionally or otherwise. When a woman knows or suspects her man of sleeping with another woman she immediately starts to think that that man no longer loves and cares for her, and that hurts her because she knows that if the roles were reversed and she cheated, she would no longer love her man. Do not stick with a woman that has cheated on you. If she cheats it means that she is done with you. Even if you are still getting sex, however unenthusiastic it may be, her heart belongs to another man and your relationship with her will deteriorate rapidly. This is how we think now as a society, like women. If a man is sleeping with more than one woman than that is wrong and he is cheating on one or the other, or both.
Due to this societally conditioned consciousness, several people began to take notice that I was with more than one woman and started sticking their noses into affairs that were none of their concern. What I do in my private life, in the bedroom with women, is none of anyone’s concern. However, when people see men living out their own mating strategy instead of placating the mating strategy of a woman, they get angry and feel the need to “stand up to that player”. I actually had an ex of mine, a woman I am still friendly with after the breakup due to the fact that we go and dance at the same bar, confront me about the issue. This particular ex and I were both into the modeling scene and I was talking with her about doing a collab with a photographer that I know and she said to me, “I’m not very happy with you right now.” To which I responded, “Oh yea? What’s up?” I knew I had done nothing wrong so I was confused. She said she was unhappy about me dating KC and BB at the same time. She knew both KC and BB and felt the need to protect them or something I guess. When I told her that both KC and BB understood the situation and how I was dating, she seemed to get annoyed and didn’t even respond. I have a feeling there was a mix of embarrassment and annoyance on her part at the fact that I could pull this off, and that the women were okay with it.
I think the combination of these two factors, the social pressure and my increased attraction for KC, have me feeling ready to break away from BB. I am moving far away from the area pretty soon and I want to end things with these women on a good note. This is my first experience dating more than one woman at once and I am having trouble with how I should go about breaking the ties. I move in about three weeks. In between now and then I have four weekends. The last weekend that I am here, KC and BB will be in the bar that I dance in, and I am not sure how to handle it. It being my last weekend here, I want to give most of my time to KC, but don’t want BB to feel ignored and neglected. I am connected to both women and want the best for them and don’t want to hurt either one. I am wondering if I should talk to BB about what’s going on or if I should just demonstrate and not explicate and hope she gets the picture over the course of three weeks. This also comes with the uncomfortable situation over the course of the last weekend that BB will see me in the bar with KC, and if I’m still visibly with KC, I really risk hurting BB’s feelings and making myself look like an *******. It’s strange, as long as I am giving both women what seems like equal amounts of attention and intimacy, they are okay. As soon as I start doing things differently in a public setting though, things get dicey. They realize the shift in my actions and begin to wonder what’s wrong, and they become upset by the fact that I’m not giving them attention. Girls like to receive attention in public. It’s a way of them claiming you in front of other girls. If you are inconsistent with your PDA though, they realize that you don’t want to look like you have been claimed, and that sets off a trigger in their minds. I think my first mistake was giving these girls any attention (PDA) in public at all. I think that I should have been aloof in public with them. Either that or I should have just kept them in different areas. I’m new to game and fairly domain dependent and I think the fact that I met these girls in the same bar is what put me in this corner in the first place. If anyone has any advice about how to go about navigating this situation please let me know.
