"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Nasty e-mail
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Panda 2000
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GEE, WHAT A COINKYDINK! You start becoming an "a-hole" player and all of a sudden, she got the hots for you! As opposed to before, when you were just a sweet, nice guy - and she could care less.afc_recovering said:
She wrote that whiny email out of SELFISHNESS. She felt like you were moving up, and leaving her behind. In other words, your value went up in her eyes as you started fvcking girls of higher value in her eyes (popularity-by-association). Anyhow, as you can see, all her words were BS as her ACTIONS clearly show that she is only now MORE attracted to you than ever!
Which is why she still wanted to fvck you again recently.
So, let me tell you, when you've technically done nothing "wrong" and a girl calls you an a-hole, jerk, etc - that is a GOOD compliment and you are well on your way! That is one corner that you have now turned in your journey. Congrats! :cheer:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Kings_royalty
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Good for you bro, love it!!
afc_recovering
Don Juan
Well since you won't let me get all my thoughts out while talking to you in person, I guess I'll have to resort to writing on here. Again, I appologize for the e-mail, it was dumb. I guess I was just trying to tell you that I feel like you've been ditching your real friends to hang out with the jocks and other popular kids. The truth is I miss hanging out with you and I guess the e-mail was my way of telling you that. It's great that you're getting the popularity now because you deserve it, I just don't like how you've seemingly left your old friends behind. I'd really love to put all of this behind us and go back to hanging out, because I love the time we spend together. Call me at work if you want to talk.
Luv You,
Sarah
Ok guys so she sent me this and I've been contemplating whether I should keep her as a fvck buddy or not because she has been a major ****block lately and I don't know if it's worth keeping her around. What do you think?
Bloke
Senior Don Juan
Give her a break, now she knows not to f*ck around with you.
Don't be an angry person.
Translation: You are not the wuss that I used to be able to manipulate and control to my liking. Please revert back to your old ways so you can kiss my ass again like the good old days.afc_recovering said:
Be friendly towards her when you see her around but don't spend time with her. Don't have a serious heart to heart talk like she wants to because it will lead you nowhere. If she is really pushing for it, tell her that if she really wants to make up to you she should take you out for some food and drinks. Then its your move....afc_recovering said:
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
I'm proud of you, going from being an AFC and ONEits to the DJ you have become is indeed truly amazing. I would suggest that you keep spinning those other plates and Sarah as well.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Perfectly summed up!wayword said:You start becoming an "a-hole" player and all of a sudden, she got the hots for you! As opposed to before, when you were just a sweet, nice guy - and she could care less.
My only concern about this is that you're telling women you love them to get them to have sex with you. That is low my friend. It is going to cause them a lot of pain and psychologically damage them, which they don't deserve. It's this kind of thing that creates feminist b1tches.
Other than that, congratulations on embracing your manhood and developing some sex appeal!