"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nail Biting

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Did a couple of searches with no results...

Anyhow, I have a bad habit of biting my nails. I've tried many different "cure-all" pre-packaged solutions without luck.

Has anyone successfully stopped biting their nails. I don't do it only when I'm stressed or bored... I seem to do it all the time and it freaking sickens me (and looks like Shyt, too)...

Any tips/suggestions?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Pick at your earwax constantly. That flavor isn't so tasty.
 

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I quit a few years ago. Everytime you catch yourself biting your nails, slap that hand (seriously). Get mad at yourself. Call yourself names. If you're in school or something, do something less obvious like pinch the finger you were biting.

You have to train yourself just like you would train a dog that's biting the furniture - catch him in the act and punish him.

It's not an easy habit to break, but if you really want to quit you can.
 

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Originally posted by livin large
I quit a few years ago. Everytime you catch yourself biting your nails, slap that hand (seriously). Get mad at yourself. Call yourself names. If you're in school or something, do something less obvious like pinch the finger you were biting.

You have to train yourself just like you would train a dog that's biting the furniture - catch him in the act and punish him.

It's not an easy habit to break, but if you really want to quit you can.
Thanks... gonna give that a try... Part of my problem is that sometimes I don't even notice I'm doing it...
 

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Put a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you catch yourself biting your nails, stop and (lightly) snap the rubber band. The point isn't to hurt yourself a lot, just to remind you not to do it. It works!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CaliMike

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Originally posted by Ofus
Put a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you catch yourself biting your nails, stop and (lightly) snap the rubber band. The point isn't to hurt yourself a lot, just to remind you not to do it. It works!

thanks.... im determined... i think im going to combine both of these last suggestions =)
 

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I used to bite my nails then I read about all the germs that ae in there even after you wash your hands, I use a nail filer (emmery board) to keep them pretty short now so if they're short then chances are you'll have a hard time biting them.
 

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This rubber band / pinching combination is working pretty well... Caught myself several times today starting to bite then I get pissed at myself... if no one is around, I yell at myself (haha.. its awkward)... then inflict minor amounts of pain... hopefully this plan will break this awful habit... Thanks fellas
 

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I'll try the same- have the same problem.

One suggestion, after 1-2 weeks start cutting your nails regularly. A couple of times I nearly quit, and becuase I hadn't bothered to cut them, they grew to long and I succumbed to the temptation of cheiwing them off (mmmmm :) )
 
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I had been biting nails for about 10 years, this is how I managed to quit.

my teeth was having problem at the time, gum bleed, decayed teeth, and I was working full time just to earn my dental insurance.

so the last thing I would want was to straighting my somewhat uneven tooth with extra money. ( at the time, I thought nail biting would contribute to uneven my teeth, eventho, I knew it had nothign to do with it.)


so my way of quiting was the stress of full time job and fear of spending $.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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