"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Nail Biting

CaliMike

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Did a couple of searches with no results...

Anyhow, I have a bad habit of biting my nails. I've tried many different "cure-all" pre-packaged solutions without luck.

Has anyone successfully stopped biting their nails. I don't do it only when I'm stressed or bored... I seem to do it all the time and it freaking sickens me (and looks like Shyt, too)...

Any tips/suggestions?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JohnnyVegas

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Pick at your earwax constantly. That flavor isn't so tasty.
 

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I quit a few years ago. Everytime you catch yourself biting your nails, slap that hand (seriously). Get mad at yourself. Call yourself names. If you're in school or something, do something less obvious like pinch the finger you were biting.

You have to train yourself just like you would train a dog that's biting the furniture - catch him in the act and punish him.

It's not an easy habit to break, but if you really want to quit you can.
 

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Originally posted by livin large
I quit a few years ago. Everytime you catch yourself biting your nails, slap that hand (seriously). Get mad at yourself. Call yourself names. If you're in school or something, do something less obvious like pinch the finger you were biting.

You have to train yourself just like you would train a dog that's biting the furniture - catch him in the act and punish him.

It's not an easy habit to break, but if you really want to quit you can.
Thanks... gonna give that a try... Part of my problem is that sometimes I don't even notice I'm doing it...
 

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Put a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you catch yourself biting your nails, stop and (lightly) snap the rubber band. The point isn't to hurt yourself a lot, just to remind you not to do it. It works!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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CaliMike

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Originally posted by Ofus
Put a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you catch yourself biting your nails, stop and (lightly) snap the rubber band. The point isn't to hurt yourself a lot, just to remind you not to do it. It works!

thanks.... im determined... i think im going to combine both of these last suggestions =)
 

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I used to bite my nails then I read about all the germs that ae in there even after you wash your hands, I use a nail filer (emmery board) to keep them pretty short now so if they're short then chances are you'll have a hard time biting them.
 

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This rubber band / pinching combination is working pretty well... Caught myself several times today starting to bite then I get pissed at myself... if no one is around, I yell at myself (haha.. its awkward)... then inflict minor amounts of pain... hopefully this plan will break this awful habit... Thanks fellas
 

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I'll try the same- have the same problem.

One suggestion, after 1-2 weeks start cutting your nails regularly. A couple of times I nearly quit, and becuase I hadn't bothered to cut them, they grew to long and I succumbed to the temptation of cheiwing them off (mmmmm :) )
 
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I had been biting nails for about 10 years, this is how I managed to quit.

my teeth was having problem at the time, gum bleed, decayed teeth, and I was working full time just to earn my dental insurance.

so the last thing I would want was to straighting my somewhat uneven tooth with extra money. ( at the time, I thought nail biting would contribute to uneven my teeth, eventho, I knew it had nothign to do with it.)


so my way of quiting was the stress of full time job and fear of spending $.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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