"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mystery Is A Creep!!

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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And we should care what those guys think because???
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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its mostly guys saying he is a creep

of COURSE they would think so, Mystery is getting women and they are not
 

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I dont like Mystery. I think similar things to the guys above. also, his profile in "The Game" by Strauss didnt paint a good picture. however, I acknowledge that he is good at what he does, and I'll import anything he says/does that I find useful and that fits in with my style.
 

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Most of the attacks on MM are steeming from ignorance of the system.

Things like "Mystery says to use other people's lines word for word, and to never think of anything original". Actually, in VAH Mystery says explicitly NOT to do this. He recommends creating your own original material, because in the long run that works better. He simply states that being able to deliver other people's material *can be* a useful skill. The entire VAH is mostly about creating your own stories, routines from real life, build an identity, etc. He also states several times that one needs good social skills and natural conversation ability. I don't know how Mystery could have made this any more clear, the people saying this are just completely ignorant of Mystery Method.

If someone doesn't like Mystery Method that's fine. Men have been getting laid for thousands of years without it! OTOH, I would be careful of some of the so called 'gurus' who have financial gain to slam MM. One that comes to mind I recently heard slam MM, when asked what he would talk about with women the only thing he could think of to say was "make fun of all the other guys". Each time the interviewer would ask this q from a different angle, that's all the guy could think of to say. Wow, one thread to talk about! I bet she will think "that's the most interesting guy I've ever met, he makes fun of people for hours!". I think it's wise to avoid anyone overtly negative, with all the egos and money in the PUA community, all the 40 year old virgins are going to start offering workshops to support their hooker habits LOL

There are also a lot of men who are very jealous and bitter. The average man (according to the polls I've seen) sleeps with less than 10 women. LESS THAN 10 WOMEN!!!!!! Can you believe that???? Now, I'm not shy to let people know I've slept with more than 50, and most of those were actually attractive to really hot (yes, I did do a few UGs, but for other reasons like they had one really good attribute --nice ass but poor face, pretty face but stretch marks, etc). So yea, the guy who onlyslept with 10 women, even if all 10 were picture perfect, is probably going to wither admire or hate a guy who has Mystery's level of success. That's totally understanable.
 

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BuildingSomethingBig said:
You don't value their opinions?
Those were more like comments, they didn't give any reasons about why they felt he was a creep. They just sound like a bunch of bitter women who hate tall leggy blonds for no apparent reason, they just sound jealous.

I think the worse thing that people do is to follow the opinions of the masses without any real basis. The life of a lemming isn't all that appealing when you really consider it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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THE_ADDMAN said:
I dont like Mystery. I think similar things to the guys above. also, his profile in "The Game" by Strauss didnt paint a good picture. however, I acknowledge that he is good at what he does, and I'll import anything he says/does that I find useful and that fits in with my style.
I give Mystery mad props for understanding the psychology of what drives women. You can tell that he puts a lot of time and effort into studying and expounding on how the sexes interact. Now ask me about what I believe drives him personally and my opinion would be a bit different.
 

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There are also a lot of men who are very jealous and bitter. The average man (according to the polls I've seen) sleeps with less than 10 women. LESS THAN 10 WOMEN!!!!!! Can you believe that???? Now, I'm not shy to let people know I've slept with more than 50, and most of those were actually attractive to really hot (yes, I did do a few UGs, but for other reasons like they had one really good attribute --nice ass but poor face, pretty face but stretch marks, etc). So yea, the guy who onlyslept with 10 women, even if all 10 were picture perfect, is probably going to wither admire or hate a guy who has Mystery's level of success. That's totally understanable.
I'm above 10, but nowhere close to 50 and have no problem if Mystery or anyone else has 100's or 1000's of women. What other men have dosen't matter to me, its about what makes me happy... Why be jealous ?? Waste of time

I just find it funny that he's a god to you people, he's just a guy that has sex. How clever do you have to be ?? I'll never understand this, but ehh so goes the world...


-Cod3r
 

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Thousands of women is just a dumb bragging point unless you got them all pregnant and now have several thousand children. Then you are officially a seed-spreading grandmaster gardner!
 
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