You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
organizedconfusion said:poor mystery,Conan made him look foolish.He's a good sport about it though.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The beautifull thing about PU is that once you've got your shiit down, you become the one who's doing the selecting. You become the man that women want.Just another example of men helping women take over our society. I think this is because people view women as the "prey" and men as "predators" during pickups. Men have to use all sorts of convoluted techniques, and say and act a certain way in order to bed women.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:Just another example of men helping women take over our society. I think this is because people view women as the "prey" and men as "predators" during pickups. Men have to use all sorts of convoluted techniques, and say and act a certain way in order to bed women. Hence the plethora of books and ebooks and whatever else the PUAs are trying to sell us.
WOMEN on the other hand, have to open their legs to attract a man so there isn't as big as a market for that type of merchandise. The only thing out there really for them is material to tell them essentially to close their legs, which is cause for garbage like "The Rules".
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This was actually a good interview until the last 12 seconds when Kimmel made 2 quick jokes about style. You could see style wince slightly.DJDamage said:I didn't see the interview but I could imagine where its going to be like Style was on Kimmel.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vt-uYcSk6Vo
Are you kidding? What do you think the cosmetic industry is? The female clothing industry? Cosmo, Vogue, and all the other magazine crap? Women are FLOODED with help to attract men.Deus ex Pianoforte said:WOMEN on the other hand, have to open their legs to attract a man so there isn't as big as a market for that type of merchandise. The only thing out there really for them is material to tell them essentially to close their legs, which is cause for garbage like "The Rules".
The reason style'd wince was because Kimmel hit the nail on the head. Style sounds and looks like your typical skinny gay guy there is no going around it (and metrosexual's do tend to get more girls then the average chumps), Yes he bed's many women but he doesn't look like he feels comfortable in his own skin (very appologetic, who knows maybe its a part of his "act" which makes it more sad). I rather bed some women and feel good about who I am and know that I can be much more.Paradox said:This was actually a good interview until the last 12 seconds when Kimmel made 2 quick jokes about style. You could see style wince slightly.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That is the price to pay for exposure and Mystery books are going to sell better after the show. Conan was being himself and that is to entertain the audience so each of them get something out of this interview.PISTOL_WHIP said:He got made to look like a douche. He didn't blow it though, it could have went alot worse for him.
thank you!DJDamage said:The reason style'd wince was because Kimmel hit the nail on the head. Style sounds and looks like your typical skinny gay guy there is no going around it (and metrosexual's do tend to get more girls then the average chumps), Yes he bed's many women but he doesn't look like he feels comfortable in his own skin (very appologetic, who knows maybe its a part of his "act" which makes it more sad). I rather bed some women and feel good about who I am and know that I can be much more.
I ain't bashing the guy or any other PUA (props for starting the community) but why can't the desire for success with women cannot be spread to one's personal success in life?!
When I first saw style on a video I was shocked because my gaydar was in the red.organizedconfusion said:thank you!
Am I the only one that thinks Style it kinda ...gay?
Not that theres anything wrong with that or anything but he just seems queer for some reason.I don't know what it is..he's just soo squeeky and squirmy.It's cool that he's accepted his squeekyness and all and is genuinley himself rather then trying to cover it up and be more alpha or macho,points for that much. But come on,don't tell that no one else sees his aura as being a little fruity..or maybe alot! lol
Nothing against the guy or anything.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.