"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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MySpace says she's (my girlfriend) "single"

drexler

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What do you guys think of my girlfriend having herself listed as single on myspace? We just explicitly made our relationship bf/gf a few weeks ago although we've been together a few months. I saw that she has logged on to her profile page within the last fewdays but hasn't made any changes for months.

Would you guys be concerned? I'm not, but am considering confronting her about it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Smack yourself, matter fact... do it twice


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I'm probably being ridiculous. I don't use myspace so I don't really know the ins and outs of it. Thanks for the responses
 

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Do you update your MySpace profile every time you get a girlfriend? Is MySpace that ingrained in your way of life that you feel a need to make sure your profile is updated every hour of every day? If I were you, I'd be more worried if her profile listed her as "In a relationship" and then she updated her profile to "Single, and looking" sometime during your relationship. On the other hand, I'm not concerned about what goes on in MySpace. And neither should you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i think that if you ask her to change it, it would show extreme possesiveness on your part and being to concerned with small things that should be overlooked.
 

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I agree that it would seem insecure to ask her to change it. I forgot to add that in her comments the first thing she says is that she loves being single. Probably doesn't change anything, bu the message she is sending out is clearly that she is single. I may joke about it if she doesn't change it in the next month or so. I know I'm being insecure even thinking about this, but its a little annoying to go to your gf's myspace profile and see her stating how she loves to be single.
 

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drexler said:
I agree that it would seem insecure to ask her to change it. I forgot to add that in her comments the first thing she says is that she loves being single. Probably doesn't change anything, bu the message she is sending out is clearly that she is single. I may joke about it if she doesn't change it in the next month or so. I know I'm being insecure even thinking about this, but its a little annoying to go to your gf's myspace profile and see her stating how she loves to be single.
don't worry about it too much, unless she's on there all the time.

if it really bothers you, make your own myspace profile, and add her as a friend. then you can poke a little fun at her, just say jokingly "single huh? ;) "
or something like that. also leave little mushy comments on her page to ward off other guys.
 

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also leave little mushy comments on her page to ward off other guys.
"Baby i'm soo glad we're bf and gf and ur NOT single, seriously last night was amazing"


-Cod3r
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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she knows damn well what shes doing. dont write your in a relationship in urs. its that simple. (she will complain about this though - just a warning )
 

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drexler said:
What do you guys think of my girlfriend having herself listed as single on myspace? We just explicitly made our relationship bf/gf a few weeks ago although we've been together a few months. I saw that she has logged on to her profile page within the last fewdays but hasn't made any changes for months.

Would you guys be concerned? I'm not, but am considering confronting her about it.
Im going to be really honest here, ive experienced alot with girls and ive been taken for a fool before and im going to tell you something from the heart, from a man to another man...... You let her know that you are single too. You have no time for games and there are ALOT of quality girls out there. dont waste your time with this one who clearly states that shes single. If she was really interested in you.. she would clearly state that shes taken. Dont ever let a women take you for a fool.. Worry about yourself and care about only you until the day that the "right" girl comes along. You will know when "shes" a keeper. until then... Keep your heart protected. Myspace is for friends but its clearly a online hook up spot.
 

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She likes the attention.

Girls are all about MySpace. She wants to still be able to pick and weed out the bazillion guys filling up her inbox with friend requests and solicitations.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bible_Belt said:
If you're the one having sex with her, who cares? Jealousy in a man is a counter-productive waste of time.
Copy that. You should get worried when a guy leaves a comment saying "Wow you really rocked my world last night! Thanks for the good time" Other then that I wouldn't worry. If you occupy her physical time, who gives a f*ck about her internet time.
 

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LMAO

I dated this girl over the summer, it was only after she joked about it that I realized that I hadn't changed it. I didn't care at the time either. People don't update that stuff often. Stop worrying.
 

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there are lots of dumb@$$ses on myspace.

my friend's exboyfriend used to put single on his profile thing too, you know why? not because he didn't like her or anything like that, but if a girl thats better looking than her comes around and leaves some comments on his page, it makes him seem open to be hit on. he takes it as an ego boost, until one day he did find someone better looking ,guess what he dumped my friend and banged the other chick, they are "together" but his myspace thing still says hes single.


then again, maybe your girl just didn't notice it yet.
 

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I think she's playing games. Dump her. This is only the beginning of the end. More problems will come later.
 

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You know, my MSN profile still lists me as "High School student". I should really change it, because I don't want some underage chick to start hitting on me.

Nah, cant be bothered.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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