amnbyrd
Don Juan
Ive been myspace free for 4 days now!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Good stuff!amnbyrd said:Ive been myspace free for 4 days now!![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
speakeasy said:I would like to delete mine, but the one thing that keeps me on is the music. When I find a band a like, they usually have other similar bands on their page, and they in turn have others with music like theirs. There's so much new music I've found because of myspace. Plus there's bulletins people post tell of interesting events coming up. That's what keeps me on, otherwise I'd be gone. I used to be able to meet a few girls here and there, but that ended some time ago, now they neither contact me nor respond to my messages.
knglerxt said:I deleted my account. There's just too much spam on there. You get these friend messages from fake profiles, which just happen to always have hot girls in the pictures. Then, when you go to their profile it's some girl wanting you to watch her webcam. You'd have better luck trying to meet women on the street than on MySpace.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.