Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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INTP here. Can I trade this in? I'd like to borrow an ESFJ for a few years, I'd probably be getting more poon.
 

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Interesting that almost everyone here so far is an NT type. What does this tell us?


http://www.gnxp.com/MT2/archives/003474.html

NT - Ideas: These people like thinking about ideas. They like solving problems (not the administrative kind), inventing algorithms, and architecting solutions. Most scientists and engineers are NTs (though a lot of engineers are SJs). Lots of good programmers are NTs (I'm one of those), but they're likely to view programming as a means to an end rather than an end in itself (in contrast to SPs).

We are a pretty small part of the population as a whole, only 5-7%:

SJ: 40% - 45%
SP: 35% - 40%
NF: 8% -10%
NT: 5% - 7%

I'd also be willing to bet the farm that NT males have the hardest time with women of all four major types.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Strong INTJ (meaning, score extreme on all 4 indicators). Supposedly, only 1% of the population is INTJ, but everytime I see this come up somewhere on the net, more pipe in as INTJ's than any other profile.

"Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel."
Exactly. So like any INTJ worth his weight would do, I researched the net on how to use my powerful mind as a weapon to seduce women, instead of something that just got in the way. Of course that inevitably led me here.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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azanon said:
Strong INTJ (meaning, score extreme on all 4 indicators). Supposedly, only 1% of the population is INTJ, but everytime I see this come up somewhere on the net, more pipe in as INTJ's than any other profile.

Ive noticed the same thing. It could be that INTJ's are more drawn to posting on web forums while the other types are out socializing and getting laid. :rolleyes:
 

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Colossus said:
Ive noticed the same thing. It could be that INTJ's are more drawn to posting on web forums while the other types are out socializing and getting laid. :rolleyes:
I'm sure that's part of it. :mad:
 

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Colossus said:
Ive noticed the same thing. It could be that INTJ's are more drawn to posting on web forums while the other types are out socializing and getting laid. :rolleyes:
No doubt. NTs are pretty rare in the population at large, yet they fill up web forums. Think about it who web forums appeal to and it's no surprise. You do it alone, it requires thinking and introspection. It's total INT territory. Face it though, we'd rather be tagging some ass than posting here.
 

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Colossus said:
Ive noticed the same thing. It could be that INTJ's are more drawn to posting on web forums while the other types are out socializing and getting laid. :rolleyes:
I think another explanation for the higher percentage of INTJ in forums is because we are more opening-minded and more willing to search for new ideas.
 

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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