"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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INTP here. Can I trade this in? I'd like to borrow an ESFJ for a few years, I'd probably be getting more poon.
 

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Interesting that almost everyone here so far is an NT type. What does this tell us?


http://www.gnxp.com/MT2/archives/003474.html

NT - Ideas: These people like thinking about ideas. They like solving problems (not the administrative kind), inventing algorithms, and architecting solutions. Most scientists and engineers are NTs (though a lot of engineers are SJs). Lots of good programmers are NTs (I'm one of those), but they're likely to view programming as a means to an end rather than an end in itself (in contrast to SPs).

We are a pretty small part of the population as a whole, only 5-7%:

SJ: 40% - 45%
SP: 35% - 40%
NF: 8% -10%
NT: 5% - 7%

I'd also be willing to bet the farm that NT males have the hardest time with women of all four major types.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Strong INTJ (meaning, score extreme on all 4 indicators). Supposedly, only 1% of the population is INTJ, but everytime I see this come up somewhere on the net, more pipe in as INTJ's than any other profile.

"Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel."
Exactly. So like any INTJ worth his weight would do, I researched the net on how to use my powerful mind as a weapon to seduce women, instead of something that just got in the way. Of course that inevitably led me here.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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azanon said:
Strong INTJ (meaning, score extreme on all 4 indicators). Supposedly, only 1% of the population is INTJ, but everytime I see this come up somewhere on the net, more pipe in as INTJ's than any other profile.

Ive noticed the same thing. It could be that INTJ's are more drawn to posting on web forums while the other types are out socializing and getting laid. :rolleyes:
 

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Colossus said:
Ive noticed the same thing. It could be that INTJ's are more drawn to posting on web forums while the other types are out socializing and getting laid. :rolleyes:
I'm sure that's part of it. :mad:
 

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Colossus said:
Ive noticed the same thing. It could be that INTJ's are more drawn to posting on web forums while the other types are out socializing and getting laid. :rolleyes:
No doubt. NTs are pretty rare in the population at large, yet they fill up web forums. Think about it who web forums appeal to and it's no surprise. You do it alone, it requires thinking and introspection. It's total INT territory. Face it though, we'd rather be tagging some ass than posting here.
 

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Colossus said:
Ive noticed the same thing. It could be that INTJ's are more drawn to posting on web forums while the other types are out socializing and getting laid. :rolleyes:
I think another explanation for the higher percentage of INTJ in forums is because we are more opening-minded and more willing to search for new ideas.
 

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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