Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My wingmans really nervous about tonight, any advice to give out? (somewhat urgent)

Brighty

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I know, I hate these last minute topics too.

Basically the scenario is that I set my afc friend up with a reletively cute girl and I'm taking out her hot friend and we're both going double dating tonight (I suggested it to help him feel more comfortable). We're going to go out to eat and then go bowling, but the problem is is that its obvious that my friend is pretty nervous. I tried referring him to this site and I don't think he's taken a look at it and he's coming over in a few minutes to hang out before we go out.

Is there anything I could go over with him to help him feel more comfortable? I want this to work out between them but I feel that if he feels out of his element that he'll be too awkward and things won't happen. Is there anything you guys recommend that we do in the hour we have together before we go out, like discuss the gameplan/come up with conversation starters to always keep the convo going/release some of his tension?

Quick responses would be awesome guys, thanks again for helping out.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Clarky

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Tell him that if this girl has agreed to go out with him then he must have done something right, i always used this to calm nerves on dates and before going for the kiss.

He needs to keep the convo light hearted, use kino when appropriate and ask open questions which get her talking about herself and interests. Tell him to gauge her reaction for signs of enjoyment or boredom and just to take the whole thing in his stride, if things go right then great, if things go wrong he can learn from his mistakes :)
 

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forget she's a girl and refer to her as just a buddy to hang out with with no expectations, JUST FRIENDS HANGING OUT..........pressure is off
 

Brighty

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Thanks for the quick responses guys, good luck out in the field tonight everyone!
 

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COD said:
forget she's a girl and refer to her as just a buddy to hang out with with no expectations, JUST FRIENDS HANGING OUT..........pressure is off
So, he should tell his friend to be nonsexual? ... right
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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