"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My wingmans really nervous about tonight, any advice to give out? (somewhat urgent)

Brighty

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I know, I hate these last minute topics too.

Basically the scenario is that I set my afc friend up with a reletively cute girl and I'm taking out her hot friend and we're both going double dating tonight (I suggested it to help him feel more comfortable). We're going to go out to eat and then go bowling, but the problem is is that its obvious that my friend is pretty nervous. I tried referring him to this site and I don't think he's taken a look at it and he's coming over in a few minutes to hang out before we go out.

Is there anything I could go over with him to help him feel more comfortable? I want this to work out between them but I feel that if he feels out of his element that he'll be too awkward and things won't happen. Is there anything you guys recommend that we do in the hour we have together before we go out, like discuss the gameplan/come up with conversation starters to always keep the convo going/release some of his tension?

Quick responses would be awesome guys, thanks again for helping out.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Clarky

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Tell him that if this girl has agreed to go out with him then he must have done something right, i always used this to calm nerves on dates and before going for the kiss.

He needs to keep the convo light hearted, use kino when appropriate and ask open questions which get her talking about herself and interests. Tell him to gauge her reaction for signs of enjoyment or boredom and just to take the whole thing in his stride, if things go right then great, if things go wrong he can learn from his mistakes :)
 

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forget she's a girl and refer to her as just a buddy to hang out with with no expectations, JUST FRIENDS HANGING OUT..........pressure is off
 

Brighty

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Thanks for the quick responses guys, good luck out in the field tonight everyone!
 

scottfall

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COD said:
forget she's a girl and refer to her as just a buddy to hang out with with no expectations, JUST FRIENDS HANGING OUT..........pressure is off
So, he should tell his friend to be nonsexual? ... right
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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